Permissive parenting is a negative parenting style that often involves openly communicative but low-responsive parents who lack consistency and follow-through with rules and expectations. This parenting style can lead to physical abuse, neglect, emotional abuse, and sexual abuse. Uninvolved parenting is characterized by undemanding and unresponsive parents who are not responsive to a child’s needs or involvement in their life.
Uninvolved parenting is a neglectful parenting style characterized by a lack of responsiveness to a child’s needs or involvement in the child’s life. In the wake of the COVID-19 pandemic and reports of a growing youth mental health crisis, four-in-ten U.S. parents with uninvolved parenting have been identified as toxic parents. Good enough parenting is about being there for a child when they are sad or angry, but not preventing them from being sad or angry in the first place.
Bad parenting can be passed down from generation to generation due to lack of training and poor role models. Poor parenting affects a child’s development and makes them more susceptible to mental health issues. Most of the bad eggs of society are negative self-perception and low self-esteem control issues, such as pushing limits and boundaries to see. Poor parenting is leading to an epidemic of mental health issues due to parents or relatives not knowing how to parent and emotionally support their child.
Poor academic performance is related to poor self-esteem, especially in the academic and professional domains, and it has a negative impact on a child’s future. It is important to recognize the signs of poor parenting and take steps to change the behavior for both the child and the parent.
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What is the least effective parenting style?
Neglectful parenting often leads to resilient and self-sufficient children, but they may struggle with emotional control, coping strategies, and maintaining social relationships. They may also have low self-esteem and seek inappropriate role models. An example of neglectful parenting is when uninvolved parents don’t buy groceries or plan meals consistently, leading to preoccupation with food and overeating. However, these children often have an easier time leaving home when it’s time.
It’s important to remember that no parenting style is guaranteed to produce perfectly adjusted children, and everyone experiences difficulties. It’s unrealistic to assume that a parenting decision is the reason for a child’s difficulties.
What does bad parenting lead to?
Research on parenting, parent-child relationships, parenting style, effortful parenting, the concept of parenting, and cognitive development of children has been extensive. Children’s cognitive development begins in the first year of life and progresses gradually over time. Positive parenting is essential for children to face challenging problems and develop confidence. Sensitive parenting and caregiving are necessary for a child’s maturity and cognitive development.
There are four types of parenting styles: authoritative, authoritarian, permissive, and uninvolved. Good parenting requires understanding the concept of good parenting, the importance of parenting and children’s needs, the components of parenting, and the consequences of parenting.
Good parenting involves meeting a child’s needs according to cultural standards that change from generation to generation. Research on parent-child relationships and childhood development has increased rapidly, focusing on parenting practices and child development and maturation. Mental and physical stimuli like cognition development, language, social emotion, and motor skills in infants and children are difficult to mature or grow. Higher academic performance, income, and socioeconomic development determine childhood growth.
Parenting is the process of supporting and promoting a child’s physical, emotional, mental, and social development. Dimensions of parenting include quality of instructions, animation, cognitive stimulation, physical care, parent-child synchrony, sensitivity, and positive responsiveness. Research focuses on increasing parental support and responsibility to develop children’s cognitive abilities, providing sensitive caregiving effects on children’s cognitive development.
Sensitive parenting with young children provides an emotional climate for them, offering security and confidence. Self-sufficient support and sensitivity, such as best emotions, lead to early brain maturation and cognitive development in children. Sensitive parenting shows affective and behavioral development in children, characterized by responsiveness, positive encouragement, approval or thanking, stimulation, and lingering.
Children’s health, behavior, development, and style of parenting are always a concern for parents. Professional help is required to solve this problem, related to family care, youth and parenting support, and children’s mental health. Media is used to increase parenting information and awareness, enhancing parenting skills and decreasing depression, anxiety, and stress. This research primarily focuses on parenting styles, child cognition, and the concept of parenting.
What is the healthiest parenting style?
Authoritative parenting is the most recommended style for children, as it promotes emotional stability and self-sufficiency. It involves clear communication, age-appropriate standards, and setting boundaries. Children are encouraged to make choices and discuss appropriate behavior. Parents should listen to their children’s emotional health concerns and express love and affection frequently. Positive reinforcement and praise can be used to encourage desired behavior, while ignoring annoying attempts at attention. Parents can also promise to respond when children stop whining. Overall, authoritative parenting is a beneficial approach for children to develop self-awareness and emotional stability.
Can kids recover from bad parenting?
The National Library of Medicine states that bad parenting skills contribute to anxiety and depression in adolescents. Adolescents growing up with critical or harsh parenting are at increased risk for negative outcomes such as externalizing behaviors, withdrawn behavior, trait anxiety, depression symptoms, depersonalization, interpersonal rejection sensitivity, anger, and poor health. Hostile parenting involves frequent harsh treatment and discipline, which can be physical or psychological.
This can involve shouting at children regularly, routine physical punishment, isolating them when they misbehave, damaging their self-esteem, or punishing them depending on the parent’s mood. Together, healing is possible.
What is the most exhausting age to parent?
The initial months of parenthood can be challenging due to the constant care and attention newborns require, which may be difficult for new parents to balance with other responsibilities and commitments. New parents may experience feelings of overwhelm, sleep deprivation, and a lack of restorative periods. Nevertheless, with time, parenting can become less exhausting as new parents adapt to the changes in their lives and the constant care and attention newborns require.
Why is parenting getting worse?
Psychologist Anna Mathur identifies a number of significant practical differences in parenting practices compared to those of previous generations. These include the availability of support networks, the prevalence of financial challenges, the delineation of work boundaries, the conduct of friendships, and the extent of parenting knowledge, all of which contribute to notable variations in parenting styles.
Can poor parenting cause trauma?
Negative experiences in childhood can increase a child’s risk of developing mental health issues, physical harm, hazardous behaviors, chronic diseases, and lack of resources or educational opportunities. These experiences can lead to PTSD, depression, and anxiety, which can prevent up to 21 million cases of depression. Parenting styles can be authoritative or authoritarian. Authoritative parenting involves setting realistic expectations, establishing clear rules and boundaries, paying attention to opinions, and being kind with praise.
On the other hand, authoritarian parenting prioritizes discipline to help children become their best selves. Authoritarian parenting imposes rigid restrictions, disciplines, and has high expectations, without promoting open communication. Both types of parenting styles are considered sensible and successful for children’s development. Protecting children from negative experiences could have prevented up to 21 million cases of depression.
What is the most damaging parenting style?
The effects of neglectful parenting extend beyond cognitive and academic outcomes. They also have a significant impact on children’s long-term mental health, including diminished self-confidence and an increased risk of depression.
Why is it hard to be a parent nowadays?
Parenting is a challenging and rewarding process that often involves more work than pleasure. A 2018 Business Performance Innovation network survey of 2, 000 parents in the United States and Canada found that 88 of them said parenting today is harder than when they were children. Top reasons for this include working, social media distractions, activity overloads, and bullying and safety in schools. Additionally, 64 parents experienced parental burnout.
A Zero to Three 2018 survey found that when parents are overwhelmed or stressed, almost half lacked adequate support, with moms more likely to have inadequate support than dads. Parenting is defined as the process of raising children and providing them with protection and care to ensure their healthy development into adulthood. Parenting requires significant amounts of time, energy, and emotional strength, and multiple factors influence it, including parent characteristics, child characteristics, and contextual and sociocultural characteristics. Overall, parenting is a complex and challenging task that requires a combination of personal and professional factors.
Is parenting more difficult today than it was in the past?
A survey conducted by the Pew Research Center indicates that American parents are encountering greater challenges in parenting than they had anticipated. Various studies have also demonstrated that parenting is a more demanding endeavor than it was in the past.
What parenting style do psychologists prefer?
Diana Baumrind’s authoritative parenting style is considered the most beneficial as it balances structure and independence, allowing children to grow within reasonable boundaries and explore their abilities. Choosing the right parenting style can be a challenge for parents, whether raising alone or with a partner. Researchers have identified four main parenting styles: authoritarian, authoritative, permissive, and neglectful. Baumrind later wrote a book on the authoritative parenting style, which she believed was the most beneficial.
The effects of parenting styles on children’s development and their manifestation in adulthood are still a subject of heavy discussion in the psychology community. However, there are generally agreed-upon consequences of each parenting style. These consequences can be difficult to measure due to their hard-to-quantify effects. In this text, we will explore the four parenting styles in more detail and discuss their potential consequences on children raised under them.
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Abigail Schrier’s comment about children being asked to dwell upon bad feelings reminds me of a recent news article which told the story of how a tribe in Africa ended up asking a group of care workers, who had been assigned to help them deal with the trauma of genocide, to leave. When asked why, the tribal representatives said that it was harmful to seclude a person suffering from bad feelings and memories in a darkened room and ask them to relive their trauma. The tribe, they said, dealt with these feelings by drumming, dancing and singing in the sunshine to defeat them together and drive them into the past where they belonged. That way, they said, the person who suffered was given support, and embraced by the whole community.
There is a very popular TV show in Japan called Hajimete no otsukai, where young kids are given a task to do something by themselves for the first time in their life, usually something like walking down to the local store to get ingredients for dinner. They get a little purse with change and a shopping list (pictures if they cannot read yet) and the parents and TV crew follow them from a distance and monitor them. It is just absolutely adorable to see them grow, in the end the parents are always in tears and the kids are proud of their accomplishment.
My wife introduced me to Jane Eyre and there is a part in the story where she is being questioned and is asked “so what is your sob story?” She says she has none and lists all the things in her life to be grateful for. Earlier In the story her horrific abuse in childhood is detailed, and when she had the opportunity to talk about her life she choose to speak on the good in it. That just struck me so deep. I decided to be like her in that moment. If I ever have a daughter I want to name her Jane Eyre.
When I was a little kid my brother and the two boys next door to us were my best friends. We were out and about every day climbing trees and ‘camping.’ Being the only girl I was a real tomboy, I’d climb the highest trees to prove I was just as good as them but whenever we argued they pulled the ‘girl’ card. ‘You can’t do this cos you’re a girl.’ It was just kid stuff but I’d go home in a rage and cry to my ma that I wished I was a boy. And I meant it. Thank god there were no lunatics back then, because if someone had said that I could be a boy if I felt that strongly I’d have jumped at the chance! I remember how strongly I felt at age 7 and I would have insisted I was a boy if told it was an option. I grew out of it by 13, it was just part of my childhood, a phase. I can see how easily small children can be manipulated- especially through my own experiences and it horrifies me that there are adults who are trying to normalise this.
You are bang on. My 11 year old goes to therapy because we had a family tragedy where our family was murdered. During a session, the therapist told me, in front of her, that she should be allowed to have tic toc and that I’m the one with the issue when I don’t allow it!! It’s been a total fight in our house ever since. As though it wasn’t hard enough to be a parent.
My father lost 3 siblings and his girlfriend (who had been his high school sweetheart that he reconnected with later in life) within a year. He’s been handling it very well, but he comes over often to hold my babies and talk and just to get comfort. He’s grieving. My sister very much believes in therapy everything and has been trying to convince him to go to a therapist and get on antidepressants. She became irate when he jokingly called my baby daughter his therapist. I got so frustrated that we have pathologized human emotions so much that she thought he needed medical intervention just because he was sad and grieving. Holding your grandbabies actually is good therapy and I live a mile from my dad, he comes over every day so I know how he’s doing and he’s doing as well as can be expected. She lives over a thousand miles away, but insists that therapy is essential and specifically advised SSRI’S
As a father of a diagnosed autistic child under my wing, I’m wholeheartedly grateful for this conversation. I have been led to believe instilling discipline and temperance is just too harsh for a brain that’s wired “differently”, but my instincts tell me to keep going and keep trying to push her to do better, to lead her to take accountability for her own mistakes, and to learn from them and see them as an opportunity for growth, rather than a boogieman to be avoided. It isn’t always easy and she has an indomitable character, but I know this child has the potential in her to do great things with the right direction, because she’s also incredibly smart and determined. I’ll be damned if I let my child fall prey to the victimhood culture our current society is trying to force into their minds. Again, thank you from the bottom of my heart for articulating what so many parents out there ought to understand about children.
I wish I’d listened to Dr. Peterson when I was younger. I had my fallopian tubes fully removed at 23 (also only 6 months sober from 9 years of alcoholism), and I had absolutely no bloody idea what I was doing. Now at 28, my husband and I are in the process of adopting a teenager. Although I’m blessed to be able to do this, I still grieve that my younger self believed the left-wing idiocy of my doctor, who happily told me that she’s “willing to remove the tubes of any woman”. Thank you Dr. Peterson for helping me to (eventually) embrace my desire to be a mother. I’m looking forward to seeing you on your tour on 3/24, thank you for coming to Arizona!
I’m a 38 yo male and I recently quit seeing a therapist after seeing him on and off for about 8 years. Our sessions had become really combative as he would try to give me advice on things I didn’t ask for, like how much to list my house for or how to manage my relationships. I started realizing that years of therapy had caused me to distrust my own intuition for making decisions, which was the main reason I had to leave. With my therapy experience, my biggest takeaway is that anyone in this profession could quickly develop a really unhealthy, codependent control issue with clients, since most coming into therapy are emotionally dysregulated or looking for someone to guide them. Even the best, well-meaning therapists can be guilty of this IMO.
I’m 27, gen z and when I was in middle school, around 11 years old, I was experiencing severe emotions, I was feeling suicidal and my classmates were bullying me because I couldn’t act normal in school. So my mom came to the school and said “DISCIPLINE THESE BULLIES!” multiple times, and never once did my teachers discipline the students who were harassing me. I saw teachers perusal the bullying happening and then looking away when I looked into their eyes for help. It was pathetic and as most of us girls know, puberty is really really hard and it’s a very vulnerable time where kids need to protected to a certain extent or else they could go down some bad paths. My mom ended up pulling me out of school and then she home schooled me for grade 8 and I honestly credit that move with helping me recover from my severe depression and anxiety. She was nurturing but also very strong on the point that being 11-12 is really hard emotionally and that she felt the same way when she was a kid. She said it would pass and I would be stronger for dealing with these emotions.When I went to high school, my peers thought I was gay because of how I dressed and acted but I was just a tomboy who liked to play article games and I didn’t like to dress in girly clothes. I wasn’t trans, I just despised that society told me I needed to act feminine (that’s not the case now, I dress and act a healthy level of feminine). I’m just imagining this same scenario but instead my mom was advised to bring me to therapy.
In junior high we had this event called “we day”. At one point they had us in smallish groups and had us go around and basically share everything wrong in our life. What happened was a lot of oversharing, people crying, and random peers knowing the deep dark secrets of someone else. Junior high students don’t have the capacity to deal with those things, and for those with actual problems I imagine that did nothing to solve anything. When it was my turn, I said, “um I don’t have anything to say, my life’s really good”. Looking back i’m glad I knew even at that young age that what was happening wasn’t ok
I had a stay at home mum and I’m am so incredibly grateful for her. She wasn’t a weak role model at all, and I want to do what she did with my kids. My husband and I are going to try our best to make it work with just his income. That’s not anything that we’re ashamed of, I will proudly raise my children as a mother who puts their needs first and financial gain second. We don’t need a lot of money, we’ve already been given so much. I’m barefoot and pregnant having worked hard on cleaning the bathroom today and I’m very happy and fulfilled ☺️
I’m so happy to finally see a swing in the opposite direction for therapy. I’ve been in therapy on and off since I was 15. I’m 34 now, and the amount I didn’t need compared to needed is probably about 90%, not needed. The number of times I was told I had ptsd and I should keep feeling bad for my entire life just didn’t make sense to me, and it served no purpose. After following Jordan for 7 years now I went to university and completed the degree I wanted, I’m starting a family and working 6 days a week when I could barely work 2 days for a few hours. I re found my lost connection to God. Can’t wait for the new book!
Great conversation. Spot on. My wife is a doctor of clinical psychology, and she is one of the few that see through the bs. She practices very much so the way that you, Dr. Petersen would support. Consequently, her practice is packed, she has almost 100% success in her clients in a relatively short time, and the referrals keep going. She’s on a mission to heal via objective therapeutic intervention – which holds people accountable to the fact that they are (and in many cases the parents) totally in control of the source of their issues. It’s not for everyone. Many can’t face or take responsibility to make it through the screening process. But for those who are ready to be responsible and take action to clear up the forces driving their challenges – they will most undoubtedly succeed with her. She also happens to be a Japanese born North Korean and now American Citizen – so she’s no stranger to adversity, and doesn’t put up with any BS!!
When my brother was 16 in 1976, my Mom gave him her 1972 Impala with automatic transmission. He wanted a standard shift so he and my dad went to a junkyard and bought a transmission from a wrecked Impala. Brothet and his friends welded an engine hoist from scrap metal with minimal supervision by Dad. They unhooked the engine, hoisted it, swapped out the transmission, dropped the engine and hooked it all back up, and cut a hole in the floor for the stick shift. Dad checked in once in a while but brother and his friends basically did it all themselves. Brother drove that car for 5 more years. Can you even imagine parents of a 16 year old allowing this nowadays? Brother became a very successful electrician, made more $$ than his friends that had masters degrees, invested wisely and retired at 60 with a higher income than when he was working. As for me, Mom taught me to sew when I was 7. I was sewing my wardrobe when i was 12, making dinner so it would be ready when Mom got home from work at 11. My brother and I both were mowing the acerage on a tractor starting at 9, along with trimming along the house with a push mover that didn’t have safety stop. I raised my kids losely. They’re all successful and independent young adults now. We’ve robbed kids of competence.
My ex husband took my daughter to live with him for 3 years bc he didn’t approve of me letting her walk to the neighbor up the streets house by herself at age 10. When she came back 3 years later she was too scared to leave her room. It was so bad. She no longer believed in herself she never thought herself capable. Then the pandemic. Her endo told her that bc of her diabetes she was too high risk to go outside. She became paralyzed. She’s 21.i finally got her to start working and do online school. Next year she has to go in person. It’s so hard to get her to feel independent. To see how far she regressed in 3 years is so profound. You speak truth. Thank you so much! Don’t stop talking.
As someone who is currently in my masters program to become a counselor, this is an extremely important topic to touch on. I believe our society has a tendency to over diagnose and pathologize normal human experiences. There’s this great quote “Our current mental-hygiene philosophy stresses the idea that people ought to be happy, that unhappiness is a symptom of maladjustment. Such a value system might be responsible for the fact that the burden of unavoidable unhappiness is increased by unhappiness about being unhappy.”
This is a wonderful discussion I’m an 88 year old woman. When i was 30 something i attended night classes.on psychology.a 50ish man was.almost paralized with grief, it turned his only kid a son was a complete failure .tje fathers words were “his mother and i.removed every stumbling block that came his way ” now our son can’t cope or function in the world
That example of her child playing the piano recital is so much of how I was raised. My mom was protective in the same way Abigail was “she’s not ready yet”. My dad always believed I as ready and pushed me to overcome my challenges. I learnt compassion from my mom and courage from my dad. I feel bad for kids that didn’t have these two complementary things in their lives.
I’ve been a doting mother who birthed her only child at the age of 35. Suffice to say, she has been my world and I’ve been very protective of her. Thankfully I have a good husband who has helped me learn to pull way back to let our 11 year old daughter take more risks and grow more independently. They go on many adventures together. Initially I didn’t understand his intention and was a bit resentful of him but I’ve been seeing good results of independence and competence in our child and now I’m a true believer of that kind of healthy and balanced parenting. I know it’s hard for older doting moms to let go but it can be done. Thanks for the great talk Jordan and Abigail!
This has come at a great time, I’m heavily pregnant with my first child (son) who could be born at any point this month. I want to be a good, strong mother who will give him every opportunity to be fulfilled physically, mentally and spiritually. I will always love him and be thankful that he’s a part of our lives.
I was beginning to wonder if anyone else was observing the changes that is happening to young people and today’s parents! Thank you for an indepth, smart conversation. How do we share these thoughts with the people who need to hear it the most?! That is part of the problem. My children KNOW and understand the importance of not being offended or weak-minded. I would discourage them from entertaining feelings of “I can’t”. (Within the realm of safety and logic). I have shared this with my daughter (a teacher in Massachusetts). Thanks!
I was diagnosed with Central Language Processing Disorder in my teens and I wholly adopted that as a label, and it affected me for years. I spent a whole year in silence only occasionally mumbling. Now, after putting myself through embarrassing hardship, I speak with precision and grace. I was entirely beholden to what others said was wrong with my brain. I talk about this more on my articles, these diagnoses completely ruled my life! That was 15 years ago. Now, everyone is using diagnostic terminology to describe everyday struggles to their detriment… I call this the “diagnostic default”
I was raised by a tough Irish family. So my framework for kids was something like – don’t cry, don’t be a tattletale, brush it off and don’t start a fight but don’t walk away from one. My first child at 18, I hovered over. Until my second at 22. By the time my 4th was a toddler he was out climbing into the barn loft following his brothers. My older boy is a marine. My other boy is still finding himself but he never asks for anything. He says I don’t owe him any help and he is always pleasantly surprised when I do something for him. My teenage girl is not on meds like her friends and I will only put up with her having the vapors to a certain extent and then I tell her to go to her room and get a hold of herself and come back when she can act like a human being. She pretty much stopped. She is an A student. My youngest who is 9 runs around the neighborhood with the other kids. He skateboards and rides bikes and plays ball and gets straight As. I have not had time to follow them around and fix things. I ask them to help each other. My older kids will make dinner some nights. My daughter will help her brother with homework. My son fixed my car for me. He didn’t know how, he looked it up on YouTube and learned. I told him we could not afford a mechanic and he had to. He was so proud when he did. My husband has been gone since my youngest was 1 yr old. But they all still seem okay. I don’t see why parenting is supposed to be so hard. I guess I am very used to it being how I have had kids my whole adult life.
Oh God, humanity needs to hear about this, about the importance of a family, as much as it’s possible. As a 21-year-old guy, who seldom shows emotion in response to sentimental movies, I was surprised to find tears welling up as I engaged with your podcast. I have great relations with my family, and I want to make even better family, and this will help me for sure. Thank you for your work.
I am a first time mother of an almost 10 month old boy, and I definitely can recognize that cusp of infancy to toddlerhood he is in now, and by God, is it terrifying. It has been, and will continue to be such an honour to watch him grow. Thank you Dr. Peterson for the analogy to Our Lady’s sacrifice to the sacrifice that every mother has to make. As a Catholic, that is such a relevant way to view motherhood that will absolutely shape how I view my role as a mother from here on out. Thank you to you both for this conversation.
I remember working a deli counter at a supermarket, parents would send the kids forward to order for them. I loved looking at the kids and seeing their faces light up being called Sir and Miss. Those parents had it right. They have a safe way of navigating conversations with unknowns and they were better for it.
Abigail Shrier and Helen Joyce are two women who have stood up valiantly for the concerns of conserving and protecting women, children and parents, against the harms of ideology and physical/emotional damage caused in this fast rising phenomena that has exploded at a exponential rate in the past quarter century.
If you make your children’s childhood too “happy,” adulthood will be miserable for them. I’ve been saying all this for the last 35 years and everyone thought I was a crazy mother, even a mean mother sometimes because I made my kids work hard with me. I even made their friends work if they came over, because it’s how we lived. But when the work was done and they had all “earned their showers,” they were allowed have a bon fire and stay up late. We made them work hard, but then gave them the reward of trust and responsibility, and we allowed them to play hard. I took a mire ancient way of raising them and expected them to behave like adults by the time they were 13-15. They lived up to our expectations. 😊 My mother and father intuitively knew all that you are saying, and taught this to me and my brothers. We were very fortunate. We knew if we were willing to be their parents first, they would be our friends when they grew up. This has been the case.
This whole interview speaks to me on so many levels. I’ve been thinking alot about the story that has been told to me since I was small that “I could be anything” meant that I had to dream big. I was then fed desire about money and celebrity and ‘more’. So for years I’ve been undervaluing who I am and what I CAN do by what I haven’t done and what I “should” be doing. I now want to stay home, raise my daughter, grow my own food, clean house and care for my husband. I’ve always wanted those elements but doing those AS WELL as trying to pursue a career … is exhausting.
Hi! clinical social worker here and I completely agree. Lies produce death and the truth sets free. All professionals are corruptible (medical, political and religious are great examples). This profession is no exception. I also found in grad school that at least half of my peers were mentally ill (some were actively cutting) and instead of getting counseling they became counselors.
I was diagnosed at 12 with an anxiety disorder. Bi-polar( only because my addicted father was, and my mom didnt want to deal with a prepubescant girl.) The bipolar was a misdignosis. Almost everyone says that now. I have also had an ED, a serious substance issue and OCD. I think so much of this is true. In rehab almost every young person had a diagnosis from a young age. Depression, anxiety or adhd. And they were never taught skills. We were taught to live in our pain. I have frequently thought some similar things as this podcast, it is validating. I have contributed a lot of my issues to my mental health treatment that started as a young child.
You saved me Dr Peterson and brought me back to some of the morals that my parents instilled in me as a child that I lost once I went to university over ten years ago. You’ve brought me back and as I continue to watch your articles as well as some of your old lectures, I learn things about myself and my personal experience that I had forgotten that have helped me progress forward. I look forward to meeting you one day and hearing you speak if you’re back in Canada towards the end of your tour.
Many parents have much to answer. Remember taking my son (now 20 years old) to the paediatrician over the years. Most often, in a full waiting room, he and I would be the only ones talking quietly. Every other baby/ child would be given an electronic device while the semi-literate nanny or infrequently another parent would play with her mobile and ignore the sick child. As a society, my generation has excelled at careers but failed miserably as responsible, attentive, listening parents. So much easier to leave “the school” to raise children – never an educational responsibility. If insufficient, find a therapist. Anything to avoid actually communicating actively and listening to our children.