Mindfulness is a powerful tool that can help manage anger and reduce stress, increase emotional awareness, improve communication skills, and reduce violence and aggression. It involves paying attention to our present circumstances with acceptance and non-reactivity. Practicing mindfulness for anger allows us to regain control over our emotions and reactions, promoting a sense of calm and clarity amidst tumultuous feelings.
Recent studies suggest that mindfulness can help individuals understand the roots of anger and the underlying causes of it. Through meditation practices, people can learn to identify triggers and patterns in their behavior, allowing them to take steps to prevent angry outbursts. Mindfulness practices can help ease feelings of anger and frustration by helping connect with our emotions. Meditation helps calm the part of the brain that controls emotional regulation, making angry outbursts less common.
New studies suggest that mindfulness may help us keep our cool during relationship conflicts. Practicing mindfulness for anger allows us to regain control over our emotions and reactions, promoting a sense of calm and clarity amidst tumultuous feelings. By tapping into the experience of anger and bringing compassion to it, we can learn how to approach this dangerous, often explosive emotion in a healthier way. Cultivating a mindful attitude can reduce the frequency, duration, and level of anger experienced from day to day.
In conclusion, mindfulness can be a powerful tool for managing anger and reducing stress. By practicing mindfulness, individuals can gain insight into how to stay level-headed, learn techniques to control their anger, and avoid hurting relationships.
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What emotion is behind anger?
Anger is a secondary emotion that often arises after experiencing primary emotions like fear, loss, or sadness. These emotions create feelings of vulnerability and loss of control, making us uncomfortable. Anger provides a surge of energy and makes us feel powerful and in charge, rather than vulnerable and helpless. An example of this is a hungry infant who’s first cry is a cry of distress, but when the feeling of hunger, vulnerability, and powerlessness becomes too distressing, the child becomes angry to distance themselves and signal a problem.
It is easy to identify anger’s function in infants, but it can be difficult to identify its function in our own lives. For example, when we feel anger towards our spouse, it is easier to respond with words like “you always sit there watching TV and avoid doing any of the housework” than to address the underlying issue. Similarly, parents may be more comfortable yelling about their teenage son’s irresponsibility than owning the fear he caused them.
How to reduce anger through yoga?
Yoga poses can be a powerful tool for managing stress and anger. These poses include the core pose, forward bend, easy pose, pigeon pose, child pose, and sun salutation. These poses provide extreme relaxation to the mind and body, allowing for better focus and emotional regulation.
However, not everyone is good at managing stress and emotions, and life throws challenges at us both in personal and professional life. If you’re struggling with regular angry outbursts due to stress and irritation, yoga poses can help relax the mind and calm emotions.
The most common cause of irrational behavior and mood swings is the inability to deal with daily lifestyle stress. A calm and composed mindset increases focus, boosts confidence, and encourages proper management of situations. Yoga poses, therapies, and practices not only calm the mind but also give you confidence and strength to face situations without losing control.
In summary, yoga poses can be a valuable tool for managing stress and anger effectively.
How to calm down from anger?
To manage anger effectively, practice relaxation techniques such as deep breathing exercises, visualization, or repetition of calming words. Listen to music, write in a journal, or do yoga poses to encourage relaxation. If anger seems out of control, seek help if it causes regret or hurts others. Stay updated on research advancements, health tips, current topics, and expertise on managing health by signing up for free and receiving an email preview.
How to release suppressed anger?
The COVID-19 pandemic has led to an increase in anger among healthcare workers, with infection rates rising. While the circumstances causing this rage may be beyond your control, you can control your own reactions. Relaxation techniques or mindfulness can help with lower intensity anger, like frustration or annoyance. Physically throwing something can relieve stress and be helpful in the immediate moment. If you have a yard, throw a ball or rocks, smash something, or throw something soft against a blank wall or apple into the woods.
If you feel anger boiling inside you, yelling can be cathartic and pull you out of that blind rage. However, be careful not to startle or worry anyone by screaming into a pillow. If you can take a break at work, your car is a good option for a few minutes.
In summary, releasing anger during the COVID-19 pandemic can be achieved through various methods, such as throwing, screaming, singing, dancing, exercising, journaling, drawing, painting, and changing your surroundings.
How to reduce anger with meditation?
A mindful meditation practice can help ease anger by focusing on breathing, alignment, grounding, visualizing the anger, speaking it out loud, noticing body reactions, checking for other emotions, and relaxing one’s stance. This practice can relieve stress, strengthen self-connection, and regulate strong emotions like anger. For hot, tense emotions, a guided meditation practice, along with mindful breathing techniques, can soothe the nervous system and help manage the situation.
What do mindfulness tools grow with anger?
Mindfulness plays a crucial role in anger management, as it promotes emotional regulation and self-awareness. It helps individuals recognize the initial signs of anger, such as increased heart rate, shallow breathing, and muscle tension, and helps them recognize the underlying causes of their anger. Anger can be a powerful and adaptive emotion that can energize us, mobilize action, and set healthy boundaries. However, when mismanaged, it can lead to emotional turmoil, damaged relationships, and even harm to oneself and others.
Mindfulness can help regulate our emotions and lead to more balanced and constructive responses. Understanding the nature of anger is essential before focusing on its role in anger management. Anger can be a powerful and adaptive emotion, but when not properly managed, it can become destructive, causing harm to ourselves and our relationships.
How does mindfulness improve your mood?
Mindfulness has numerous health benefits, including reducing anxiety, depression, and improving sleep. Studies show that mindfulness-based treatments can lower blood pressure, improve sleep, and help people cope with pain. For many chronic illnesses, mindfulness meditation improves quality of life and reduces mental health symptoms. One of the first mindfulness-based therapies was used for depression, and many studies have shown its effectiveness for some individuals.
How to reduce anger issues?
To effectively manage anger, it is recommended to engage in regular exercise, such as walking, swimming, and running, as well as to practice yoga or mindfulness. It is important to ensure adequate sleep, relax, and engage in creative activities to release tension. It is important to be able to recognize the physical signs of anger, such as a fast heartbeat, quick breathing, shoulder tension, and clenching of the jaw, in order to be able to manage the emotion in the long term.
How does mindfulness help with behavior?
Mindfulness is a powerful tool for addressing the root causes of stress, anxiety, and suffering. It helps us recognize that our thoughts and beliefs are not inherently true and can lead to suffering. By observing and observing our thoughts, we can gain wisdom and untangle ourselves from the habits that perpetuate these negative thoughts. For instance, when we feel lonely or anxious, we may comfort ourselves by eating sweets or watching TV, but if we obsessively repeat these behaviors, a habit of responding in this way develops. This reinforces the behavior.
Mindfulness practices help us loosen our identification with thoughts, allowing us to observe and meet them with wisdom rather than acting out in habitual ways. This deepens our awareness of the emotions and bodily feelings that often drive our habits of thought and action. By investigating these beliefs and untying ourselves from unhealthy habits, we can become more compassionate with ourselves and change the habits that perpetuate them. By practicing mindfulness, we can become more aware of our thoughts and behaviors, leading to a more fulfilling life.
How to use meditation to reduce anger?
Focusing on the extended exhale is a breathing technique that helps relieve stress and transform anger. By taking a normal breath and allowing the entire body to exhale, we can slow down our heart rate and thoughts. This technique can help us avoid a cycle of anger, where we try to justify our feelings and get angry again. However, it’s crucial to remember that peace of mind comes from making peace with our minds.
This involves accepting all feelings without judgment and giving ourselves patience to improve in the future. By practicing self-compassion and directing anger towards a more positive outcome, we can experience peace of mind and better manage our emotions.
How can anger be treated?
Anger management is a form of cognitive behavioral therapy that involves coping with anger in healthy and sustainable ways. It involves cognitive restructuring, communication skills, and relaxation techniques. Anger management therapy can be one-on-one or group counseling, and may involve taking an anger management class. The therapist works with a mental healthcare provider to identify when anger is present and develop coping strategies.
The therapy covers anger causes, expression methods, problem-solving and communication skills, and relaxation techniques. In some cases, the therapist may recommend medication to help manage psychological issues like depression or anxiety that often underlie chronic anger issues.
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Anger rooted in my childhood trauma has caused me to sabotage the most valuable relationships I’ve ever had. It caused me to lash out and project my anger onto the person I loved most in this world…and then it fed on my guilt and turned inward. I’m working hard. I’m going to deal with this. I never want to hurt anyone, ever again
Ways to deal with anger, though it is a difficult task: 1) Acknowledge ‘your thoughts’, that they are generated due to anger. “What am I thinking now? In which state is my current thought is at?” 2) Focus on breathing – Breathing will be short and fast when you are angry. Focus in slowing down your breath. Take 2-3 long deep breaths and let it out. This helps to calm your mind and body. 3) Reflect on your thought pattern and ask “why did I get angry?”. Anger prevails in your mind. Anger is something YOU have created. You have two choices – react with negative behaviour or to respond with positive behaviour. Your experience is going to depend based on the choice you make. You have the power and privilege to respond with positivity. Hence, believe in patience. Believe in calm, kindness and patience – this will help to manage anger. Sometimes it is ok to experience anger in your mind but It is not okay to let the anger to flow out of from our bodily action and in form of words. These conscious practices will help you to manage your emotions. Namo Budhaya 🙏🏼🤍
I always get angry on things that are not fair happening at my work place.. I always can’t control my anger.. Sometimes I shout at people and scold them… But I am actually a kind person by nature but situations make me feel angry at times.. I feel amazed listening to ur speech and looking at your calm face… I wish I could be like you one day.. Thank you very much sir.. Namo buddhaya👃
This made sense. I like simple truths/instructions- not long philosophical Ted talks ( no offense). Recently I’ve noticed that when I’m angry about something, my thoughts don’t end there – suddenly I realize I’m remembering situations from my past that have made me angry- most often, the unresolved situations…. I catch myself, and I wonder “now how did I get here where I’m angry about something that’s passed?” I know that my angry thoughts lead to memories of other angry thoughts and I know that is not healthy. I like this. I’m subscribing.
Really Thank you so much Swamiwahanse sir for this your great massage/ kind suggestions…🙏🏻 We will definitely try to controls on our anger…😊 Not only just control but also we will definitely fully destroy it…😊👍🏻 With the help of your kind suggestion/Great information…🙏🏻 Namo Buddhay…🙏🏻 Theruwan Saranai 😊🙏🏻✨
I always learned one thing from your article’s it doesn’t matter whatever, whenever, wherever happen any annoying things just let it out be kindness to others in my professional life I met so many patients they couldn’t even giving ear to my words they behave so much arrogant sometimes they scold me for non of the reason but i always remember one thing be kindness to others because we don’t know how long we’re gonna live in this world until it’s happened spread love with others ❤
Anger is perhaps the most misunderstood emotion. It’s usually called “negative” in so-called spiritual circles, and is often equated with rage and hate. But in reality, anger — just like any of our basic emotions — isn’t negative in itself. Rather, it’s there for a very important reason: to help us live a better life. More specifically, it’s there to help us remove what’s obstructing our way to joy and freedom. And it does so by drawing our attention to what our needs are, what’s preventing us from meeting them, and what corrective actions we can take in order to meet them.
Thank you. As Someone who Gets anger emotion all the time for the simplest things in life, This lesson was very valuable to me. As of perusal this article, The way you were talking was very calming and helped me get over my anger and be a more calm and gentle person. You never know what anger can do sometimes. It’s best to avoid it. So today you’ve helped me see more about anger and why we should avoid it Thank you again…
To anyone feeling put off, because anger is very impulsive, especially when arising from trauma, this is still possible. The noticing step is very important and to notice your anger with loving kindness or self compassion. Noticing is the gateway which will allow you to step back and make the change so that you are less reactive. Good luck! 🙂
I am kind of calm person though but I get annoyed and anger just kicked in when I have to supervise somebody who don’t put their effort in completing a task assigned to them and rather waste their time on some trivial things. I think I have learnt today that somebody not meeting my expectation is ruining my peace of mind so I would rather treat them with love and kindness than with anger.
I’m struggling with anger issues for 3 years and I still can control it I am struggling with screaming noises and hearing sounds and difficult situations as well, although my anger was severe 2 years ago and my anger gotten more worser and worse, that’s why I break stuff and done harmful and dangerous acts as well, also I am trying too control it now, but I am now trying to stop the anger now 😊
You are so right. I have had some anger lately but I knew it was wrong. I knew it will not help the situation. So I went for a walk. This allowed me the time to breathe and think how can I make it better. Soon I calmed down and could come to helpful ways to make things better for myself. Sending you my love. 😘❤❤❤❤❤❤
Anger management is a set of techniques and skills that help a person to identify, understand, and manage their emotions and reactions. Avoiding the situation or person that triggers anger can help. Learn relaxation exercises, such as deep breathing, to help manage stress. Use positive self-talk to help control emotions. Make time for activities that bring peace and joy, such as listening to music, talking with friends, exercising, or reading.
i love this but my problem is not my own anger but a coworker is literally calling me names and berating me. It’s very hard not to snap back at him. I’ve been patient but im growing tired of his bs because he thinks its ok. I really dont want to get violent even tho i know i could destroy him. I dont want to let anger ruin my life. i prefer to have him leave me alone if possible without having so much conflict but no matter he’s desperately trying to pick fights with me.
I feel very bad 😔 someone hurt me by conduct👎 and someone by words both are at the same time without my fault when I feel anger 😡 and I also feel sadness 😞and amazing facts is that who hurts us they have no care 🤔 about how you feel, at that time my heart is crying 🥺😢, my eyes was full of teaers 😭Even I want to control my self …….🥺
Nice universal teaching same like islam, and in islam: if you dont want God to be angry with you and you want him to forgive you forgive others dont be angry with them. and in islam the prophet Mohammed may peace be upon him and upon his servito/supporter imam Ali, said: the strong person is not the one who win in wrestling others, rather, the strong person is the one who can control himself when getting angry. Also one of the teachings I think is to sit if was standing and to stand if was sitting or to wash do wudo, or to do wudo and pray, or to seek refuge from following the devil, or to ask God to make the other person a better person, or to say allahumma sally ala mohammed wa ahli bayt mohammed, this is not very accurate but its something like that..
Thank you. There are many common triggers for anger, such as losing our patience, feelings as if our opinion or efforts aren’t appreciated and Injustice/ Insults. Other causes of anger include memories of traumatic enraging events. I believe in the theory of karma and strongly believe that one’s actions have a direct bearing on one’s destiny sooner or later. We find ourselves completely undone by someone else’s behaviour. Most of the things that we get upset about aren’t our issues.
Namo buddhay bhante ji🙏 I wanted to ask a question I m living in a society where people are so negative and mean.. I have been facing them since long.. But not able to cope up with them. What I can do for them? How to tell them that you people are spreading hatred and on the other hand destroying the future of their offsprings. I was like I should have scolded them But how can I?? And why should I?? What if I go to them and ask them why did u do that?? What would be there reaction?? Pls tell me what should I do??
@Sofo archon” Anger and its negativity is not a different thing, Anger is just a name of a negative emotion, so itself is a negative emotion because it is an emotion that always tries to hurt others or yourself. If the anger doesn’t try to hurt others or yourself you can call it a non-negative emotion. The emotion that drives you to a better life is called hope and determination. Don’t misunderstand between determination and anger.🙏🏼
Respected Teacher, Before I perusal this motivational article I do not know how to control my anger to others.. Before I am getting angry usually I thought that I will not repeat this situation again.. But that time I forget all the things which I planned before… Now I could understand what steps I needs to do in this situation …Now I realized that anger is not going to help me… Thank you so much this great article
Venerable sir, I would like to suggest you, that you should upload more articles per week. One is not enough to increase the impulse. Similarly in the 超凡之光 – amazing light website ( @amazinglight ) and the Tamil Buddhist website. Another request please add articles to your tamil website ( @tamilbuddhist7908 )😢 Just like the Hindi one ( @BuddhaRashmi ). And don’t forget to add #hashtags to relevant topics, even for older articles. Namo Buddhaya!!!🙏🙏🙏
Namo Buddha ya 🙏🏻👍🏻Lama guru la, thankyou very much for wonderful article along with great means & handling unease feeling while being in practicing, way of thinking how to trained our minds with beautiful explanation 👍🏻💯…. your ways of teaching Dharma is extraordinary understandable manner.i personally appreciate you lots. 🙏🏻 Have a good evening la 💐🌷
Hard not to be angry when you face injustice after injustice. Betrayal from family. Getting used by people you thought were there for you but only there for themselves. Feeling like a fool for not knowing sooner. Health taking a hit but those who wrong others and commit crimes walk healthy among us. One thought leads to another and it becomes a vicious cycle & spiral. Nobody to turn to and talk to. No friends. And therapy is bs mostly. So you dont trust anyone and keep to yourself. But in solitude i have started becoming my own friend and its a long difficult journey but its a start. How to remain detached from it all i dont know yet. But i will focus on the present moment and focus on doing the things i love and living by my morals even if i am shunned for them.
This Buddhist should tell the Buddhist nations how to control their anger. The persecution of Rohingya Muslims in Myanmar dates back to at least the 1970s. Since then, the Rohingya people have been persecuted on a regular basis by the government and Buddhist nationalists. In late 2016, Myanmar’s armed forces and police launched a major crackdown against the people in Rakhine State which is located in the country’s northwestern region. The Burmese military was accused of committing ethnic cleansing and genocide by various United Nations agencies, International Criminal Court officials, human rights groups, journalists, and governments. The UN found evidence of wide-scale human rights violations, including extrajudicial killings; summary executions; gang rapes; arson of Rohingya villages, businesses, and schools; and infanticides. At least 6,700 Rohingya were killed in the first month of attacks, between 25 August and September 24, 2017. The Burmese government dismissed these findings by stating they are “exaggerations”. Using statistical extrapolations which were based on surveys which were conducted with a total of 3,321 Rohingya refugee households in Cox’s Bazar, Bangladesh, a study which was conducted in January 2018 estimated that the military and the local Rakhine population killed at least 25,000 Rohingya people and perpetrated gang rapes and other forms of sexual violence against 18,000 Rohingya women and girls. They estimated that 116,000 Rohingya were beaten, and 36,000 were thrown into fires.
im angry as hell all the time.. what do peaceful people like you do about people who are hostile to you for no reason.. someone is trying to start a fight with me every day everywhere i go and i dont know why.. im like an enlightened person but suffering tremendously because its like everyone around me wants to fight and have confrontation all the time and im not even about that but theyre always talking trash and kaniving some conspiracy to ruin my life all the time..
Practice the pause, apply brakes, reflect the possible outcomes of my decisions, my anger…is it even necessary to react….Practice the pause….watch hot breath blowing out from your NOSTRILS. Remember, since we are not the sole inhabitants of this densely populated world, there are bound to be external disturbances of various kinds, such as noise and interruptions by visitors. We cannot always live in “splendid isolation,” “from noise of men and dogs untroubled,” or in “ivory towers” high above the crowd. Right mediation is not escapism; it is not meant to provide hiding-places for temporary oblivion. Realistic meditation has the purpose of training the mind to face, to understand and to conquer this very world in which we live. And this world inevitably includes numerous obstacles to the life of meditation.😂
My personal experience: In my life, anger crept in after my mid twenties. Before that I never had an anger issues. I was always calm. But now a days, anything that happens against my wish then I get angry. This has affected my relationship with my dear wife. And it seems that anger can also be genetic. My grandfather and father also have anger issues.
anger makes my body feel numb. It’s like.. even i hurt myself I cant feel anything. When I get angry sometimes im unaware that im hurting myself. I just feel it when my anger passed. Another thing when im angry I forget who’s the person in front of me. I say whatever I think that person deserves to hear even if it would hurt that person. I just feel gulity after getting my mood back. I wanted to control it but im a short tempered person. My anxiety and depression just sucks.
I am angry now, an old friend of mine borrowed money from me and i trusted her that she will pay me back and she didn’t. It was painful for me because i had experience in the past where people will borrow money from me and they will fail to pay me on time, so i told myself i will not lend anyone money anymore, but because this girl was an old friend of mine i trusted her and she broke my trust. Now i am feeling anger towards her because the money i lend her was supposed to be for my baby, and i can’t bear to think that i have to postponed buying my baby some stuff because i don’t have the money anymore. It was really bad because i am starting to hurt myself when i think about it. There was also a feeling of regret. It was so bad, i felt stupid for lending her money. I am angry, feeling lost. I don’t want what i am feeling now
I feel i need to learn to control my anger ! Specially when people try to trigger me into loosing my temper ! I dont bother anyone and i hate when they take a shot at me tru negativity towards me ! To be honest i am so angry at everyone because i know they have betrayed me and they act like nothing has happened and i am almost gonna lose it ! But i am managing it accordingly !
In Christianity peace and patience are called fruit of the spirit. The master said every branch that does not bear fruit is cut off and cast into the fire. Let us therefore practice peace and patience not only with words . . . but also with deeds. Controlling the breath and mindfulness are two such practices.
I’m by god grace the most angry woman you will ever meet. I get so furious that I literally hurt the people I love the most. I hardly get angry on people that means nothing to me but when someone whom I love does something that makes me angry, I burst out like fireeee. I get very disrespectful and sadist. And later I feel guilty about it. I am under this journey where everyday I watch one article of self help and try to implement it. Idk if next time I would be able to control my anger or not but I know this is so harmful for me. I hope whoever is facing this problem like me heals. Anger is natural but getting mad is really a different thing.
Why can’t anger be useful? I agree that it’s almost never a good idea to act out of anger, but if that’s the case, then why have I endured burning rage for the last 2 months? Why must I endure for 40 more days? At least depression attracts sympathy and support from loved ones so that I might heal. Anger never seems to offer any such benefits. Even the catharsis is short lived. I can website it into things like exercise or writing, but those things never fix the root of the problem.
You are so calm, I’m already getting angry😅 I want to reach this level of calmness. Be slow talking not like a voice sped to x2 because I get so irritated I talk fast also I don’t want to be irritated by every single thing, and no I can’t do the technique of writing it down because they are small and silly. Deep breath doesn’t work when your mind is working faster than a ferrari engine, it will get me worked up even if I do the breathing steps
Good article, especially step 1 is a good reminder for me. However, we should not forget that love does not always solve a problem in 100% of the cases. For instance, when people with bad intentions are already determined to attack you physically for no reason other than to hurt others (unfortunately these people exist). Yes, I realize these kind of actions usually originate from their own pain, but you can not always prevent their violence by talking them out of it or showing love/kindness. Some are not ready to receive this. So in these cases, anger is a welcome asset as this emotion is biologically designed to provide you with the energy & motivation to defend yourself. In some cases it can save your own life. Just my 2 cents.
i roll my eyes 500 times a day.. oh someone has transgressed me again.. of course they have.. clearly theyre incapable of doing better.. i understand that this person is incapable of not being terrible.. 5 seconds later oh it happened again.. of course it did.. thank you universe for all the toxicity you bring into my life.. i am eternally grateful..
I do feel anger but i control it but at a point they get on my nerves and i have to Remove it i got anger yesterday because me and my friend were playing a game where on guy who is a dime takes a rubber closes his eyes and heres noises to beat someone when i was the dime some others came and my friend came from behind the other people touched me so i hitted the person by accident here is how it happened ⁰>⁰⁰ The zeros are people and the arrow is the hand the other person was observing and i was screaming that i hitted him by accident but he wasn’t ready to hear that and he beated me And another time he climbed over a roof while i was searching for someone and when he was the dime he only targeted me by opening his eyes
I feel like my friends knew me more than my family… to my friends i am a good person…to my family i am the blacksheep. I guess i am more real to my friends than my family… my family is the one who causes my trauma.. mostly the man who i call father…it makes me angry all the time..hes to blame about everything.
Like most of us, if left unchecked, I am a person prone to getting locked into my head, spinning narratives, stories; recycling memories and orchestrating ‘what-if’ scenarios that, I’d often then eventually believe to be ‘true’ and carry into the world with me. For some reason I believed that being so analytical of the everything in my mind was a good thing, that it kept me prepared but, and this is a big ‘but’ I rarely analyzed where the thoughts were coming from themselves. Like anger, I learned to see when the narrative was arising, when I was escalating in delusions but instead of being swept away and eventually reacting, Ive been learning to see how it is separate and not identify with it. Asking myself, “why am I really feeling like this?” the thoughts can be watched from a detached place and let to fizzle out, almost amusingly. Eventually, from perusal my thoughts, i realized they are in fact not ‘me’ but then was left with the deeper and more enjoyable question” then what is the entity perusal my thoughts?” 😅 I don’t have a full answer for that at the moment but that’s where I am now 😂
Please help me sir, i am suffering from anger issue, each time i have problems in my relationship, i will insult my partners and even threaten them, sometimes i even fight with them, please help me, people that i love keep leaving me because of my anger 😭😭 this has made me to loss a lot of good people from my life, i am single today because of anger please help me sir 🤲😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Kind hearted with anger issues. The worst ever combination 💔, it’s like “Green forest for others and red flags for closests” But ya, it’s my duty to take control of my actions and words, I can’t my personal life toxicity that was created by toxic parenting to my own family members or my closest friends.❤️🩹. I’ll change, and became Human,(from being a mArD)
What to do when u trust a person and take care of everything and wait for them though late for us… and later one day u catch them coming with others and telling us they came in auto… how to act for it… I’m not betting, shouting n not asking der salary every month… even though they keep lying to me…. I’m not able to sleep…
I understand and know i have the PERFECT most simplest life in the whole world! No stress no worries at all … i have a great wife and a wonderful kid, i do TM, i play sports and i work … but still have a anger issue which i cant tame even though i know im extremely bless . I am stuck in a country i dont want to live and my life is way to simple . My wife isnt very educated and her lack of using her brain in simple situations frustrates me,
I am writing this in a situation where often living in a toxic family had a fight, bad talk bringing someone’s personal things out even my mom and the sister who always makes me sick she does that intentionally i hate being with her and my mom is a woman where talks shit about my character forcing me to get married with a person i have been engaged for 4 years and he is not a roght person and want to get separated they go through my mind and feelings and forcefully trying to make me angry emotional which obvious
5:29 “Remember there is no problem in this world that has been solved with anger.” Anger is what got man to the moon. The only reason Americans went was because they were angry that the Russians got a satellite into orbit before America had even been into space. They got jealous and angry and this motivated them to do better. Without anger there would have been “No giant leap for mankind.”
I know that if you feel anger when someone insults you then there is some truth to it. However the guy from the deli laughed and said he was overcharging me. He laughed so I asked for my money back and did not comply. I lost my temper and took the 4 popcorns packets across his face. Not my proudest moment but the part that bothers me is that I felt a sense of relief and slight enjoyment. A few days later pass by him in the street and he says what will you give me for Christmas. I replied I already gave it to you. 4 popcorns to the face. I will do my best to put this into practice. Thank you.
In a difficult situation, where a person has said something bad at your face. You can’t be starting breathing slowly and performing exercises. You have to and you would instantly reply intensifying situations. How to have control in those times when all the people around you are waiting for a response from your side? And you can’t stay silent, otherwise you would be considered weak and submissive.
Sometimes there are toxic people in your life that no amount of patience on your part will help you cope with. They will frustrate you at every turn even while we are doing something like caring for a family member with a serious illness. I have relatives who get involved negatively in family affairs. I have tried talking to them and either I am terrible diplomat or they were born compassionless, thick and ignorant. Sometimes you need to cut off the bad limb.
Thank you Bhante! I was in rage when a rat destroyed my dinner and materials in my house. I was planning to kill it but then took a deep breath and watch your article to calm down. I felt better while perusal you and thinking that that the natural of rodents. They steal and destroy of other’s possessions, that will be their karma that will haunt them in next next life.
Thank you so much for your kindness n precious teachings. It helps lot. I have one question regarding anger, controlling anger, tips are, kindness, patience n compassion n forgiveness but opposite person keeps making angry I mean ongoing, I shall let him make angry n follow ur advice?? Specially when they live together. What can we do?? Highly appreciated for your kind teachings.
I respond both negatively and positively depending on the circumstance. Sometimes you need and must respond with negativity to protect and defend yourself as your life depends on it. Otherwise, you could potentially get seriously hurt or even die. You need to get angry to change when you see unjust and unfairness!! But of course, I don’t condone violence when doing this. Bottom like, you need to get angry to be safe and bring positivity sometimes!!