Parents have a special responsibility to foster Christian virtues within their children, as they are the first to proclaim the faith. A new study aims to demonstrate the practices of parents who successfully raise children to be practicing Catholic adults. To approach parenting with an authentically Catholic mindset, parents must make all of their choices with respect and understanding.
The salvation of our children is our most important goal as parents, and we must strive to teach them to love and honor God with their lives. The 7 Building Blocks provide a clear framework for fulfilling our sacred mission as parents, working together to build and maintain connection between parent and child, foster a rich family faith, and connect our kids to God.
Catholic parenting means connecting our kids to God, teaching them how to listen, dialogue, and wrestle with the Spirit of God. As parents, we are tasked to lead our children to Christ by teaching formal prayers, attending Mass as a family, and more.
The main objective as a parent is to get our kids to heaven, and this is the main vision and goal. Parents bear witness to this responsibility by creating a home where tenderness is present. They should regard their children as children of God and respect them as human persons.
The Catholic vision of family life is one of embodied self-giving, with parents having the obligation to help their children identify their God-given gifts and teach them to share their uniqueness with others. The goal is to get through the day in a way that allows us to be the best example of responsible, self-donative love to our spouse, our kids, and ourselves.
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What is the most important function of parenting?
A University of California at San Diego study published in Scientific American identifies the top 10 essential parenting skill sets that predict a strong parent-child bond and a child’s happiness, health, and success. The study found that giving love and affection is the most important parenting skill associated with the most happiness in children. Parents should provide physical affection, quality time, support, love, and acceptance to their children.
Stress management is also crucial for a child’s happiness and well-being. In happiest families, parents employ regular stress reduction techniques and model a positive outlook on life. When parents are under significant stress, the brain redirects resources from the prefrontal cortex to the more primitive brain systems, leading to less rational, defensive, and empathic responses to their children.
Relationship skills are another predictor of good outcomes for children. Maintaining a healthy relationship between parents and their children is essential. Children inherently want their parents to get along and suffer when they don’t, so modeling effective relationship skills is important.
Autonomy and independence are also important for children’s development. Mature and loving parents create a safe environment for children to express themselves, while unhealthy family systems discourage individuality and promote dependence. Parents in these families tend to interpret individual differences as an attack on their authority, undermining healthy development.
Education and learning are also important for children. Parents provide financial security, a steady income, and a plan for the future, modeling responsibility, self-motivation, communication, and anger management skills. Behavior management is crucial for children, as consistent positive reinforcement, setting boundaries, and teaching reasonable consequences for undesirable behaviors help them learn from their mistakes and improve.
Health is another important factor in children’s development. Parents who model a healthy lifestyle and good habits, such as exercise and proper nutrition, tend to continue these habits into adulthood. Supporting spiritual or religious development and participating in spiritual or religious traditions helps build a values model for children.
Lastly, safety is essential for parents to protect their child and maintain awareness of their child’s friends and activities.
What is the main purpose of parents?
Parents play a crucial role in a child’s development by providing encouragement, support, and access to activities that help them master key developmental tasks. The family is the primary social group for a child, and providing education is a significant milestone in their growth. A good education leads to a rewarding career and positively contributes to society. Parents are also their children’s biggest cheerleaders, giving them unconditional love.
Parental involvement is essential for children’s health, academic success, social skills, and future success. Students with involved parents tend to have higher grades, better social skills, and higher graduation rates. Socially competent and emotional-sensitive parents also enhance communication skills. Monitoring teens is less likely to engage in harmful behaviors compared to hands-off parents.
What is the Catholic goal of parenting?
Parents are obligated to treat their children as children of God and respect them as human beings. They must educate their children to fulfill God’s law by creating a home environment that values tenderness, forgiveness, respect, fidelity, and disinterested service. This environment is ideal for teaching virtues such as self-denial, sound judgment, and self-mastery. Parents should teach their children to subordinate material and instinctual dimensions to interior and spiritual ones.
They have a responsibility to set good examples and acknowledge their own failings to guide and correct their children. Parents should not provoke their children to anger but instead, teach them discipline and instruction from the Lord.
What is one life goal of parenting?
Parents endeavor to establish a supportive and nurturing environment, impart essential life skills, and cultivate positive and constructive relationships with their children.
What is God’s purpose for parents?
Parents bear a sacred obligation to rear their children in a loving and virtuous manner, ensuring their physical and spiritual well-being. It is a fundamental right of children to be born within the bonds of matrimony, with a father and mother who honor their vows with fidelity. Both parents are obliged to assist each other in an equal capacity.
What is the goal of parenting?
The objective of parenting practices across the globe is to guarantee the well-being and security of children, to equip them with the skills and knowledge necessary for adulthood, and to instill cultural values. A high-quality parent-child relationship is of paramount importance for healthy development. The various parenting styles exhibit a range of emotional warmth and control, with the majority of classifications varying in context.
What is the biblical goal of parenting?
Biblical parenting aims to set the hope in God for future generations, not just for children who have grown up in Christian homes and learned the Bible. It is crucial to paint a large picture of God in our homes, discussing His strengths, works, and glory. This will help our children have confidence in God, not just in the world or things of this world. The goal is not just to pass on these truths to our children, but also to the coming generations, including grandchildren and great-grandchildren. It is essential to ensure that our children are intellectually prepared to learn and grow in faith, as it will leave a lasting legacy on their future generations.
What does the Catholic Bible say about parenting?
Parenting is not just about doing something for others, but also about forming and fashioning us, awakening and enriching us, stripping and healing us, and teaching us to become people of prudence, patience, and perseverance. This concept was echoed by a Catholic parent who shared her own struggles with her children, including addiction, pregnancy, anxiety, and losing their father to a heart attack.
The author’s book, Mary’s Way: The Power of Entrusting Your Child to God, offers a perspective from a Catholic parent who has experienced similar challenges. The book addresses issues from a Catholic perspective, offering concrete prayer tools and hope for parents. It also points parents to Mary as the model of faithful, God-centered parenting, reminding them that despite being a perfect mother with a perfect son, she was not given a pass on suffering.
The author’s book is not theoretical but based on her own experiences as a mother dealing with addiction, pregnancy, anxiety, and loss. By offering a “how to” approach to parenting and a “in the trenches” look at life’s messiness, Mary’s Way serves as a valuable resource for parents dealing with similar challenges.
What is the universal goal of parenting?
Allison Jolly, a primatologist and anthropologist, suggests that humans have few, much loved offspring. Robert LeVine’s 1988 proposal suggests that all human parents have a universal evolutionary hierarchy of goals for their offspring, which manifests as three goals: encouraging the survival and health of offspring, developing offspring into self-supporting adults, and instilling culturally specific and acceptable beliefs and behavioral norms.
Examples of these universal parental goals are shown in various contexts, such as Maya mothers receiving food packages and medical examinations at CARE regional health centers, adolescent young men helping their aunt prepare traditional foods in Sikkim, India, and Buddhist monks training boys from very poor families. These examples demonstrate the importance of emotional and physical commitment to support a pregnant woman, her infant, older children, juveniles, and adolescents.
Human love is often referred to as “affect hunger”, which is rooted in biology and emerges with culture. To satisfy this affect hunger, humans must have the nurturant love from others to complete their physical development and bring them to culture. Infants and children deprived of nurturant love often die, and those surviving do not grow well in body or brain, never becoming healthy, cultural persons.
What is the true purpose of parenting?
Parenting is the process of raising children and providing protection for their healthy development into adulthood. The assumption that parents have a direct influence on their children through socialization has been widely accepted in human development research and cultural belief systems. However, this assumption has been challenged by researchers who emphasize the role of biological influences on children’s development.
Behavioral genetic studies show that adopted children are more similar to their biological parents in basic characteristics, such as personality, intelligence, and mental health. Some scholars also argue that peer relationships also have a strong influence on development.
What is the key concept of parenting?
Parenting is the process of raising a child from infancy to adulthood, encompassing physical, cognitive, social, emotional, and educational development. It involves various caretakers, including biological parents, older sibling, step-parent, grandparent, legal guardian, aunt, uncle, other family members, or friends. Governments and society also play a role in child-rearing or upbringing, with orphaned or abandoned children often receiving care from non-parent or non-blood relations.
Parenting skills vary, and a parent or surrogate with good parenting skills is considered a good parent. Parenting styles can vary by historical period, race/ethnicity, social class, preference, and other social features. Research supports that parental history, including attachments and psychopathology, can significantly influence parental sensitivity and child outcomes. Warm adoptive parenting has been shown to reduce internalizing and externalizing problems in adoptive children over time.
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My mom consecrated all of us. So after I delivered all my 4 children, on the way home, me and my husband would make a stop at our church and offer our new born to God and our blessed mother, our Lady of Guadalupe. I would cry in front of the altar looking at my baby and the happiness that God gave us with every single child ❤ I don’t know why, but to me I always felt an undeserving overwhelming joy. I would also call on their guardian angel to always keep them in God’s path. Thank you Gabbe for this article, there is always something new to learn
I was raised within a Catholic family and my grandparents were very devoted and prayed the rosary every night. I went to a Catholic school then went wayyyy out of the faith. I think that my mother’s and grandparents’ prayer, who are now deceased brought me back to Jesus and Mother Mary a few months ago. Now I am raising my children with my husband who is Catholic but who does not pray🥺. My son who is 9 says a decade of the Rosary with me.🙏🙏🙏..I pray to Mother Mary everyday so that my family can find its way back to Jesus,in these very very difficult and tempting times.🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Great timing on the release of this article. My wife and I recently found out we will be parents after 16 years of marriage. Baby made and conceived on the feasts of the 2 Hearts. Thanks to you and your team throughout these last few years. You have helped me in ways you can’t imagine. Well actually…doing the work that do you probably can. God bless you all!
Awesome article! Your new baby is adorable. What a wonderful family you have! In my life,, raising kids was wonderful, but once my 3 children started to say the Rosary everyday, it was a game changer. Everything is better. Mama Mary is the best Mother. This year my older boys consecrated themselves to St. Joseph, I can’t wait to see the fruits of that in years to come. What a gift the Holy Family is to us. Thank you Gabi and I hope that you and your wife are getting some sleep 😀🙏
All your articles are fantastic, inspirational, blessings all! I was wondering about your family. Your lovely wife is a holy woman and great mom. And now four children! God bless you, Mr. Castillo. I wish I had turned my life around when I was young so I could have had a holy marriage and raised my children in the faith. You’re a wonderful example.
God bless you and your family Gabriel!!.. I’m a Hispanic Men..I been perusal your articles lately and it’s been a blessing for me..I been praying The Rosary every day since 2022..but now I have 2 days praying the 4 mysterys..I’been a truck driver for 30 years..I’m 58 years old..And I still want to fight against Satan and stop been a sinner..for my wife and my son’s..thank you for your ministry! God bless you!!
Thank you so much for this. I am truly going to watch this again with my husband. Thank God he has a huge love for our beautiful Catholic faith. I think we are definitely struggling with discipline. Our eldest is 7, second born 3, and we expecting our 3rd now in May. I feel like we discipline and raise our family as our parents raised us. I find it hard to be a calm mother. I definitely will make sure we go to confession today. Many thanks. God bless you and your family.
Dear Gabi, This is so wonderful! Thank you so much! 🙏🏻🕊🔥 i’m crying of joy and gratitude this is so beautiful! Praise be to God, by the great Grace of God we are striving to live this way with all our hearts. May the Immaculate Heart of our sweet Mother Mary triumph in all of our hearts bringing the reign of Christ our Eucharistic King and His Divine Will! May Jesus bless you and continue to make you His humble, obedient and joyful servant! 🙏🏻🕊🔥 Warmest greetings and blessings +in JMJ+ angèle
I love this, Gabriel. Amen, yes! I love this man. Consecrating one’s kids to Jesus and Mary will help keep kids on the right path. He had an amazing talk about Mary. Clear and consistent consequences makes sense. Also, being consistent is important. I think a lot of parents aren’t consistent nor do they explain. Never out of anger. I love that Birthday song. I love that clip of Gabriel praying the rosary with his son. Building that relationship with GOD is important. Taking care of the kiddos souls and then letting the kids grow with GOD too is SO important. Prayerful parents make prayerful kids. ✝️🕊❤️
I wish i didn’t grew up poor. My mom struggled so hard to provide for us and i was a fool in life. Im still young and struggle with my faith not my religion. I love our Blessed Mother and only she knows my weaknesses and strengths. I pray that My Mother remembers me and forgives me. I’m just sorry for myself that i can’t change but deep down my heart belongs to Our Holy Mother ever graceful with her gifts of great mercy😔💚
Loved this article Gabi! All the tips are so useful. Can you do a longer parenting one on discipline or home rhythm? A daily rosary and a peaceful night prayer with kids sounds lovely, but when night rolls around, we are mentally exhausted, sometimes cross, slo-mo clean ups pushed us past bedtime and we just want to get through prayers fast. I keep thinking rhythm and setting consistent expectations is the answer, but we’re not there yet. However, we are blessed to be walking distance to a church and whenever the kids go to a playground there, we stop in to say hello to Jesus. Our oldest is 8 but the youngest is 1, so we can’t manage a whole Holy Hour yet, but even those 10-15 minutes with Jesus are precious!
What an absolutely inspiringly beautiful and well explained article. Love it 🙏 my kids are big, but my older siblings are having grandchildren and will certainly share this with them. My 18 yo son and 21 yo daughter will also become godparents (first time) to my sisters grandson on the way, so good for them to watch this. Thank you 🙏
This is a beautiful article, thank you for making this website a mission to help souls. I hope if I am called to Marriage to be a good Dad, you are a good example to us young Men. Let us not forget to pray for the Men or Women, young or old, that did not have such a blessing of proper Catholic instruction, for those who are abandoned by their Parents, also for those who don’t have Spiritual Fathers in the home. Amen. God bless you. Viva Christo Rey! Ave Maria!
Like you said..I got to do it. Thank you so much Gabi. You are such a spiritual mentor esp. to young modern parents. I thought you are a priest but you a parent just like us which move me so deeply. God bless you for uplifting me and my family. Pray for us too as we pray for your family, your effort and sacrifices for your humble yet great call to reach us through your articles. Jesus loves you so much 🙏
Could you share a parent’s examination of conscience? I definitely do some of the things you mentioned but had not really thought about it being sinful before. I think I generally don’t struggle too much with the “big stuff” but wonder how many similar small things I’m doing that I didn’t realize were sinful.
Gabbi, please please please consider doing an episode on just abortion and Pro Life. I have been working with my sidewalk team for 13 months, and so many women go in and are never the same. The problem is that so many Catholic are Pro Life but not willing to do anything about it or pray the Rosary for it. Can you do something to get the message out there. Thanks
DEAREST BROTHER GABRIEL THANK YOU FOR THE article BECOZ HOW MY FAMILY BROKEN WE DONT HAVE WHAT YOU HAVE ON article THAT IS WHY AM NOT HAPPY THROUGHOUT ….. I PRAY THE ROSARY WHEN I GO TO BED …THE ROSARY I PUT UNDER MY PILLOW… BECOZ OF THE COVID 19 ITS HARD TO GO PLACES WITHOUT WEARING MASK….AND SO FORTH DEARST GABRIEL PLEASE PRAY FOR AND FOR MY WORKING NEAR AND FAR VISION AND MY CONFESSIONS
Hello Gabriel, I’ve a question. Firstly, amazing article. I’ve wanted to see a article with your entire family in it! What a Holy family, has Our Immaculate Mother raised up! In the start of the article, was that an exorcism before Baptism? I was Baptized at a NO Mass and I don’t think they used an Exorcism. That doesn’t change the validity of my Baptism right? May God bless you and May The Immaculate Heart be our Refuge!
Thank you for the beautiful article. My children are 3.5 and 4.5 years. And taking them for Holy mass has been so challenging. They constantly make noise and find it hard to sit silently (which I know is difficult for them at their age) and at the end we get stressed and so they do. My elder daughter, now has started detesting coming for mass coz I have started becoming stricter with staying silent during mass. How do I go about this? It’s concerning me much. I don’t want feel doing other activities during mass like books, colouring etc gives them the right meaning of what mass is. Can you please advise me on this. Like wise family prayer also is so difficult to say because of distraction from them. How do you use discipline as well as get them really interested. Please advise. Thank you
Hi Gabriel. As a catholic myself. Congratulations on your, beautiful baby girl . I do not want to go off topic . But I just want to ask you could you give your opinion on receiving the Eucharist by hand and standing and why ? is the Vatican allowing this . Jesus is being crucified over and over again by his priest whom he blessed and also by his children ( where is their faith ) remember. Jesus I trust in you ) why are they not putting their trust In him .Thank you 🙏 peace be with you. Great article
Hello Gabi… I have been following your articles for quite some time. Me and my children try to do a little something for Mother Mary on her feast day. So this September 8, we are inspired to do a article showing the Salutation ‘Hail Mary’ ( just the salutation, not the Hail Mary prayer) in 53 languages in honour of the 53 Hail Mary we recite in a rosary. We would like to reveive one Hail Mary salutation from you and family. Plz let me know if God inspires you to be a part of this.
What do you suggest for a household where I’m the more devout parent and my husband doesn’t take his faith life seriously? Our 14 yr daughter (we’ve been blessed with one child) sees this and thinks it’s OK to not prioritize her faith life too. I try to encourage them to frequent confession and go to Mass regularly but it’s a struggle. We’re also fairly recent converts and have only been Catholic for 4 yrs this Easter Vigil. My daughter is currently in confirmation class and she does go to that without complaining and goes to youth group each week. My fear is it’s social and not an interior desire to pursue God. I’m just kind of at a loss as to how to encourage them without pushing so hard I totally turn them off the faith entirely. Help! Thank you!
Mr Castillo please help interceed for me else the things of God fades away and I m in trouble because none of my family members ever have what you have shared in this article to take consideration advantages of these which you have shared because if you don’t interceed for me I think it will all disappear and that will be a total disaster dearest mr Castillo your the best daddy for your children and your wife….a good family background is a real genuine stigma not like mine….😩😫
fairly true, but also encourage kids to ask questions and learn. i cant tell you how many teens i know my age who were raised in ccd and have catholic families, but dont care about the faith at all, because nobody answers their questions, nobody leads by example, the examples they see are hypocrites. i beg you, dont expect your children to love Jesus if you don’t love as Jesus loved. be willing to be corrected and be humble-from a kid
Hello Gabriel I have a question. I understand that the children need to be punished in peace and love and also physically . I have also seen great progress thanks to your tips for the Holy Mass with the children . I also manage to stay calm most of the time and not punish in anger. I just don’t understand how to deal with my 2.5 year old daughter when, for example, she completely freaks out because she has to go to bed. Should I let her calm down first? Should she be spanked on the bottom? Should I do nothing at all until she has calmed down? How do I deal with it ? I want to do the right thing but I am unsure because I also realize that non-physical punishment is not yet understood by her mind.
Question, I grew up being told that a child goes to confession until they are about to do their first communion. In my area, most kids do their first communion until they’re like 11 or 12. That’s just how the catechism is set up. I can take my nephew when he turns 7 to confession? Even if their first communion is not for a few years later?
Sorry baby’s are innocents and do not need to be baptized until they reach the age where they can tell he difference of right and wrong if the parents are living in Christ then their child is under Gods grace. One more fact Yes Mary was blessed among women chosen by God so Christ would be born but you don’t pray to Mary. Mary can not intercede for you or your sins Christ died on the cross and his blood is what washes your sin away if you believe in Jesus and accept him as your lord and savior and repent of your sins. Again Mary was blessed remember in the 10 commandments have no other Gods before me don’t turn Mary into a false god. Nobody knows you any better than your creator.
Your comment about these “personality tests” erasing the individual, is why I prefer the 4 temperaments to the Meyers-Briggs. The Meyers-Briggs is too complex by dividing people into 16 categories. The 4 temperaments on the other hand, by use of the word “temperament,” implies that an individual will most likely act a certain way but can still surprise you by acting in a way they usually wouldn’t. Whereas if you follow the Meyers-Briggs people would be tempted to say “oh well that means you aren’t REALLY an INFJ, you are also an INTJ.