Soul agreements are pre-incarnation contracts between two or more individuals, involving life scenarios conceived before birth. According to spiritual beliefs, souls choose their parents and families long before birth, aligning with their karmic purpose. This choice is highly mystical and relies heavily on the concept of reincarnation. Edgar Cayce argued that we choose our families, and across numerous ancient cultures worldwide, the belief persists that souls make pre-birth decisions. According to ancestral Kundalini philosophy, babies choose their parents 3 months in advance, depending solely on their karmic purpose.
Children will specifically choose their parents based on their purpose in this world or choose who they want to be raised by. It is spoken that souls can choose their parents before birth and wait until the chosen parents are ready for birth. Yes, we do in fact choose our parents before being born into this incarnation. The main reason is that as our souls are interconnected at the Source, we choose our parents before being born into this incarnation. Children choose their parents before birth, engaging in a soul contract aimed at mutual spiritual growth.
In conclusion, souls choose their parents and families before birth, engaging in pre-incarnation contracts aimed at mutual spiritual growth. Children may choose their parents based on their purpose in this world or who they want to be raised by.
📹 How Souls Choose Their Parents Before Birth!
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Do we choose our parents before we are born?
Ancient cultures, including Native American, African, Indian, Greece, and Tibet, believe that souls choose their parents and families before conception on earth. Pre-birth agreements, which contain details of future earthly incarnations, are drawn when souls are connected at the Source. Sometimes the soul decides the details of the cosmic contract, and sometimes a Higher Power intervenes. However, every soul has a clear vision of future life events before entering the womb of the mother.
Who comes first, wife or parents in Islam?
A married woman is bound by Islamic law to obey and respect her husband, followed by her mother, and then her father. This order of precedence is established after that of God and Prophet Muhammad. Similarly, a married man is obliged to obey and respect his mother, followed by his father.
Does Allah choose your parents?
As adults, we have the choice to shape our relationship with our parents, who are Allah’s chosen ones. As parents, we have no say in our relationship with them. As we become parents, we must reflect on the grief and worry we may have caused our parents during our teenage years. We may have been late or forgetful to call, leading to a lack of communication and a sense of responsibility. As we grow and become parents, we must remember the importance of maintaining a healthy relationship with our parents and ensuring they are well-cared for.
Who is the preferred parent of a newborn?
Babies often prefer their primary caregiver, especially after six months of separation anxiety. This can lead to parental burnout if the primary caregiver takes on more daily caregiving duties, even when another caregiver is available. This can result in exhaustion, stress, and resentment, impacting a parent’s well-being and the quality of time spent with their child. To address this issue, consider implementing strategies that allow one parent to take on more daily baby chores while still maintaining their child’s parental preferences.
Do kids choose their parents?
Many people struggle with the question of why they chose their parents, as they believe they would have chosen better ones or families. However, pain is a part of life and is necessary for growth. Everyone experiences storms throughout their life, and some people start the storm process early to gain the lessons and growth they need. If you can’t answer why you chose your parents, you haven’t fully understood the lesson and growth.
Your karmic journey and destiny will be to recreate the challenge in another form or fashion to learn the lesson. The portal provided by your parents can help you enhance your destiny. Everyone experiences pain, and it’s essential to recognize and learn from it to grow and learn from it.
At what age do babies only want their mom?
Newborns have an indiscriminate attachment, but after 2-4 months, their parental preference often leans towards their mother. This is due to factors such as mothers staying at home, breastfeeding, and the familiarity of their voice. Having both parents involved in bedtime can help the whole family be more well-rested, especially if the baby is already independent. Actionable steps to include both parents in daily routines can help limit parental preference and promote a more balanced relationship between the parents. By involving both parents in daily routines, the baby can develop a stronger bond and better cope with the challenges of parenthood.
Do baby girls prefer mum or dad?
There is no gender-specific pattern to a baby’s preference for one parent over the other. While some babies may be described as ‘daddy’s girl’ due to their strong attachment to their father, others may be’mummy’s boy’ due to their intense bond with their mother. It’s important to respect your baby’s preferences and not take it personally. It’s also crucial not to gloat when your baby seeks out you, as they are easily influenced by their surroundings and have a short memory. Don’t be put off if your baby changes their opinion about you.
Do children choose their parents in Islam?
The Supreme Being selected our progenitors as a blessing and trial for both parties, as they provided care for us in our infancy. Consequently, providing care for them in their later years represents a significant responsibility.
Are first babies usually late or early?
The study by Smith reveals that 50 of women giving birth for the first time gave birth by 40 weeks and 5 days, while 75 gave birth by 41 weeks and 2 days. Similarly, 50 of women who had given birth at least once before gave birth by 40 weeks and 3 days, while 75 gave birth by 41 weeks. This suggests that the traditional “estimated due date” of 40 weeks is incorrect for both first-time and experienced mothers.
Does parenting begin before birth?
Parenting, which begins before birth, involves prenatal bonding between mother and child, and its biological effects on fetal development. Recent research has shown that prenatal maternal stress can alter the fetus’s and child’s development, potentially persisting until early adulthood. This can lead to issues with cognitive development and language skills. Copyright © 2024 Elsevier B. V., its licensors, and contributors. All rights reserved.
Can unborn babies sense their dad?
Massaging your partner’s belly can relieve discomfort and itchiness caused by the growing baby bump. Babies can sense touch from anyone and can also sense familiar touch and voice. By 24 weeks into pregnancy, dads can usually feel baby kicks. It’s important to learn about pregnancy and its milestones to feel more connected to your baby. For example, a baby can make a fist at 12 weeks gestation and hear your voice by 16 weeks. It’s also crucial to understand the needs of your partner, as pregnancy is difficult and a dad’s job is to understand their needs.
📹 The Ridiculous Idea That Babies Choose Their Parents Before Birth (And More on False Spirituality)
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I remember being shown 3 sets of parents. I did Not want the first 2, for my own reasons. I fell in love with the 3rd choice. I fell in love With my father. He wanted this child really Badly, my mother was beautiful. Everyone Was already pregnant. I wanted to meet My dad. He turned out to be a good dad Till he died at 83yrs. Old. I do not regret Meeting him. He was a Blessing!
A master yogi said the only souls that choose their parents are those that EARNED the right through previous good incarnations where they served and did well. Some souls get assigned to certain families to deal with issues they once had that are negative and need to overcome aka karma, and some souls come into negative families to be curse breakers and change the pathologies in dark bloodlines. Everything is not the same for everyone.
This explanation is a little too rose-colored glasses and not very realistic even from a spiritual standpoint. But as somebody who has studied spirituality in many ways, I was shocked when I heard this concept because like other commenters here I had a very abusive neglectful hard childhood. I tried to commit suicide more than once because of the severity of the abuse. I I have had to do so much healing over the years and I don’t know if I’ll ever really be done but I think thats kind of the point of life. To keep growing & expanding. I think the negitive experiences are part of what gives us resiliance. I also dont think you see a full plan of the detailed events. Why you or I have sh*ty parents is not karma. You didn’t do something bad in a previous life to deserve a hard life this time. The best way I’ve ever heard it explained is that you are source, And you can never not be source so whatever you go on to experience here hurts on a human level. But on soul level it is just an experience. Not good or bad just a new experience. God/source wants to have as many experiences as possible. So you sign up to have some. With every new experience you learn you grow source is experiencing itself. I think we can feel what feels good and not in a sense of truth because what feels good is what is going to draw us closer to our divine path. If you think about it like a theme park it might help. You know you’re going to go to the theme park, some people are going to want to only ride the carousel.
What about people who don’t have kids>? — Did anyone not choose me and my spouse? why didn’t anyone choose us to be their parents, did anyone not want to learn from us? 🤔😥 — many couples struggle to have kids, were we not worthy of having kids? Honest question…. how can this philosophy answer to this????
Lady, I’m sorry, this article was clearly made for the privileged and happy, Loving families. This is not inclusive or highlighting of people who grew up in tough homes or tough circumstances. Therefore unfortunately, this article DID NOT convince me of anything. I will continue to look for a more realistic article elsewhere.
This is bogus. Why would souls choose to be born, let alone choose to their parents. Imagine. One moment you’re a free spirit, roaming in the astral. The next moment you’re coming out of the birth canal covered in blood, constrantly crying and can only drink milk for sometime and have to go to school and stuff. Its insane.
I find this really hard too believe’ so they say there are souls that have chosen there father too be a abusive alcoholic that beats on his children and the mother and the mother is drug addicted that has too sell her body to put food on the table because dad keeps losing jobs and you the child has been born with a funny name and is picked on about all her or his life and from the day the child was born until they die has been nothing but pure misery! Really i dont think so i think this b.s.
Thank you universe it is already mine and my soulmate we love beautiful things people in love passione romantic feelings and happy home thank you universe thank you my soulmate Thank you My angels I love my baby and my soulmate we love beautiful baby comming in oure lifes ❤❤we love you magnificant baby
I also remember choosing my parents. I told the Angel who was working with me I wanted to be born to a rich family. The Angel said “OK, I CAN PLACE YOU IN THE TRUMP FAMILY”. I yelled out “Hell no !! Don’t do that.” So I wound up with my lousy, poor, unhappy parents, but I thank God I wasn’t born a trump.
My parents both committed suicide a year after I broke away. The most horrible “spiritual” explanation I’ve herad afterwards was, that we all had a soul contract, where everything that happened was written and I agreed to it. This is now 10 years ago, and after 3 years of “real” therapy I can say loud and proud: I never signed up for this mess!! Never! And it was the best thing to do to leave this horrible family system. I’m still dealing with the traumas of my childhood – and Daniel, you are like my second therapist;) I am glad I’ve found your website and seeing it grow makes me very happy for you too!
My mom accuses me of being possessed by demons and when i argue shell get in my face with her finger and start “rebuking demons in the name of Jesus Christ” or worshipping god to drown out the sound of my voice. She’s very into the dramatics of christianity and tells me i only lack a belief in God to spite her.
I love this! One of my first spiritual teachers who had a PhD in psychology said this 🙄 everything you said is ace and spot on to argue this madness which cannot be proven! I won’t ever say this to anyone anymore or spread this ideology that can be so harming to people. Parents are sadistic in my opinion… all natalists who choose to have children biologically. It’s all selfish and makes no sense whatsoever. Every cradle is a grave. I am adopted 💖🙏 I was chosen. If I was able to have a kid or wanted one – which I can’t even care for myself so it’s out of the picture but if I hypothetically could… I would adopt! Parents do a lot of harm and I’m really happy you make articles like this Daniel. 👍💚👌 I really appreciate you. You’re an amazing man.
I love how you express yourself! Healing our pain is a grieving process. It’s taking me a very long time to process that grief. .. I don’t allow others who judge my personal process, (no matter how well intended they are).. get close enough to me to stifle my progress and personal way of processing. And: Those who believe we must remain loyal to those who have caused great harm, it seems like Stockholm’s Syndrome, that they are trying to instill .. . (I hope you speak on this too.) You are so helpful to many of us, reinforcing our self worth,. Because we too, were devalued in our childhood by our parents. And the abuse continues throughout our adulthood, if wee allow it…No contact is often best. Thank you. for your much needed, and very important work.
Thank you for posting this – people have said this to me!!! – and its really screwed my head. As i am going through my healing and as i am separate from my family, Those statements really bothered me, and i found myself finding something in them in my tired and weak moments. But its utter crap, and so i am grateful (again) for you Daniel for this article – thank you sir
I have certainly heard such ridiculous ideas from spiritual teachers and so-called gurus, saying that one chooses everything good and bad in their life before they’re born qr their highest purpose. I hear those sam people say often, that the crap we go through is just what we needed to happen for our highest good, or that we “attracted” those crummy things that happened to us either in this life or a past life. And it just makes me sick. No one chooses trauma and suffering; the people who raised their children in a damaging and toxic way chose the children, NOT the other way around.
In the past when exploring new age spirituality, this idea that we all choose our parents was really triggering to me. It opens the floodgate to all that toxic shame that has been artificially built up in us from being raised in narcissistic families. If there is any shred of truth in this idea, my take on it would be that I was born into this family dynamic to experience evil and to vow to never let it in my life/lifetimes again. Should I have to return here for another incarnation I would refuse any dysfunctional family what wasn’t going to love me. This idea hits harder for people who do believe there is something after death. I almost envy atheists as they can just toss it aside as being nonsense.
Yes! People who say this sort of thing are really announcing that they have never felt the level of pain—when not dissociated from it—that comes from confronting what truly happens to children who are abused and/or neglected. That “hell” you describe (true in my experience as well) is WAY too much for most people to fully face.
i agree with you but.. you are very gifted in understanding human psychology. in fact, im sure you noticed your gift in your childhood from dealing with your family. i think when people say you choose your family, its less about siding with abusers, but more about siding with the strength of the survivor. the fact that people can overcome these struggles is what SHOWS your spiritual strength. its ok to disown your parents as an adult, but you cant change your childhood. and if you didnt have those parents, you wouldnt have developed your gift. its not about paying karma or punishment from past lives. its about revealing inner strength through trials and tribulations. no one willingly chooses to suffer, but it is only through pain that we learn the most important lessons of all, and that is healing!
I usually bring the smack when I see this kind of emotional abuse on the Internet. And I’m almost always all alone out there. How about some of you folks in the comment section step up when you see it too? Those psychos need to know that they don’t rule the spiritual landscape and that their ideas only make the world a worse place to live in. Thanks.
Thank you for bringing up this sensitive subject. In the real world, things are pretty clear: abuse is abuse, no excuse for who the perpetrator is! The issue is with the spiritual blaket used by church and spiritual thinkers, that covers/excuses the abusive families or their members as being our choice of learning and becoming. An abuse is an abuse, period. If by any spiritual means, one chose to be on this Earth to learn any lesson at all is that of chosing of being decent and not taking abuse as a given just because one is supposed to obey its parents, no matter what. By taking abuse as a given, one only perpetuates abuse and violence and generates broken adults.
Thank you for this article! I also love the idea that we can stop “choosing ” them when we decide to set boundaries or cut them off. It’s been over a decade since I cut them out and I am better for it. I didn’t choose them the first time and I stopped schooling to interact with them. My only regret is that I didn’t do it sooner.
I’m curious if you have kids? Everything he says is valid. We’ve all felt this. Whether privileged or poor. Some couples (maybe around 3% of the population) understand healthy relational language and action and end up producing HEALTHY expressive kids and adults who end up accomplishing great things and passing that knowledge down that the fast majority of us are struggling with? Again, maybe 3% of the country’s population does this and it’s up to us to increase that number
Your articles are so inspiring and useful for me, I love your honest simple explanations. There are no sources in my country to help in case of a narcissistic parent so I went looking for them in Internet. Yours belong to the most helpful I have found. The light of life in my personal darkness has become brighter and stronger because of your work. Thank you so much! Don’t you ever give up! 👍
🪶 I wouldn’t choose them & I didn’t choose them. 1:38 me too 1:56 me too 2:27 me too 4:38 me too Thank YOU for existing Daniel 🙏 You have treasures here in your website Short articles from these treasures would be great, People can reach these treasures by perusal a short article then searching & finding the original article.
When people talk about choosing their parents, they talk about the concept of the souls choosing the kind of experiences it wanted to live in the human experiences. It is not for a minute an excuses nor a way to ignore the pain our parents may have caused us. It’s to face ourselves. It’s about remembering who we are truly are and to walk in our truth, our purpose. In other words, to break free of victim mentality. This is why we must have heard spiritual teachers talking about acceptance, forgiveness and letting go. It’s to give ourselves the space to heal, but not to forget, not to ignore. But also it’s not a concept that should be force unto people. Healing in itself is a process that demands resilience and self-awareness. Otherwise, it will be spiritual bypassing, this where we should use discernment with those that speak about it, because whatever our experiences we need to learn self-preservation, self-respect and self-love and for that doing the work : healing, understanding our emotions, understanding the root of our traumas, etc. In that process, we don’t need to have relationship with our parents and/or any people in our lives that caused us deep pain. But we sure do need to have a relationship with ourselves.
Fascinating. I have never heard this idea before and find it to be both quite bizarre and senseless. Why would any child want to be born on this earth now with all of the suffering, the conflict and to witness the destruction of the earth. Absurd. It seems to me that it reveals rather the dissociation and potential psychosis of the adult who is championing this idea.
I agree that spirituality can be used as emotional bypass for people not dealing with issues in their lives. Regarding if we chose our parents or not, this is not the most important thing because we don’t have factual proof of one or another. I don’t believe the majority of us chose, in the real sense of the word, the families we were born in but we were born in them for a variety of evolutionary purposes (learning how to respect ourselves, breaking free from toxic and abusive ties are some of them). I don’t believe in random abusehood and victimhood. Anyone can be abused and victimized but embracing an identity of abuser or victim is unhealthy, we accomplish nothing with such mentality, instead we unconsciously recreate more of the same dynamics throughout life. The most important thing is not if we chose them or not but dealing with the issue which is the abuse. I’m 45 yrs old and I was abused my entire life by my own immediate family (narcissistic parents and siblings). I was their punching bad, their scapegoat till years ago when I finally stopped normalizing it because the abuse reached new levels and I gained knowledge on what I was dealing with. I went no contact with them and remain as such. Dealing with this issue in my family, taught me how to deal with this issue in other sectors of my life. When it comes to forgiveness, I forgave my parents because they reproduced what it was done to them (as we commonly see in transgenerational patterns of trauma and abuse). I recognize their limitations but I have no plans of reconnecting with them.
So I’m always open to hearing peoples opinions, i understand exactly what you are saying.. although, this is something. When i was 4 i told my dad i was happy he was chosen to be my dad. He laughed and said “what?” Not knowing what else to say. I remember that memory as if it happened this morning. I can place myself in that same living room as if i was 4 again telling my dad that. Idk why that thought came about, i just know i was only a child in kindergarten and felt the need to share that with my father at such a young age. I still hold resentment over my father who was the first man to break my heart but i know my soul must have needed or wanted maybe, to experience forgiveness. My soul obviously is still learning.
Daniel you are so amazingly awesome. I hope you have been doing well recently. I just want to thank you again for all that you do, on camera and off. To know there are human beings in this Earth, true*, *human beings, it brings me endless inspiration and hope. Hope that you aren’t the only one out there. Hope that maybe, as humans, we can do better than my terrible childhood. You have taken my hopelessness and convinced me that life may yet be worth living. This sounds silly, but, you showed me that I am my own parent. My own God. The be-all, end-all judge. And I don’t have to answer to anyone else, or please anyone else (this was a doozy). I have utmost respect for you, Daniel. Thank you
When I first heard this concept of choosing your parents I thought it was pretty crazy. I have over a while started to relate to the topic. As someone who enjoys helping and talking to people working to improve their lives; I’m glad I’m more aware that this topic can be triggering for people. I’m going to explore it more to understand it better. In some capacity it sounds like the spiritual guru’s some are referring to maybe using this concept as more a manipulative technique to influence people with guilt. Which I do have a problem with. The only reason why I started see the concept that we chose our parents is in regards to the idea that it wasn’t a choice we made as humans. We made the choice to live through as humans to learn something or heal from something. It doesn’t excuse, reason, or encourage the abuse. A person shouldn’t be led to think it’s their fault, or they deserved it. The idea of some higher spiritual being deciding to be born with fucked up parents does not make said human responsible for their abuse. But perhaps a spirit would choose that existence because they felt ready to be the generation to stop a cycle in some way from trickling down further into next generations. I really do feel like regardless the real story of life we’re all here to heal and recover something we’ve forgotten. And there are some fucked up lives many have had to live. The bad parts you’ve experienced maybe able to positively help many others.
Man I feel like your talking about my parents and what I have been through and my fights with society that society thinks things like if someone pays for you they can treat you however they want. Also parents say take responsibility your an adult now. Yes your reasonable for not treating other people bad as an adult and don’t treat you children bad and work on yourself if needed but you are not responsible for what your parents did to you and how it affects you in life. It’s like parents never want to take responsibility for their actions. It’s such a huge responsibility to be a parent and parents affect their whole kids life down to their job, relationship everything. Yeah you can work on yourself and change things through a lot of hard work and therapy and somethings can’t heal and stick through life. It’s all victim blaming.
This is not true. My daughter Jess who was between the of 2-3 and had quite a good vocabulary by this time told me one day that she choose me to be her mom, i said what do you you mean, where were you before then. she said ” i don’t know but i choose you to be my mom. I had never heard this before and was very shocked. she also asked often if this was real and can she stay, i told her yes you can stay. I have no guilt and am a good mom, she is 17 now and wants to join the forces. I am not religious in any way.
An older woman of my acquaintance tells people that she’s been feared by her parents and other adults in her home, as soon as she started talking. As soon as she started talking, she asked them the question: “Where is Temura?” Temura was the name of her sister, with which she remembered having complex conversations with. The parents recalled that she had a twin sister that had been stillborn. A question: Do we have to discriminate against the right of this once child to be trusted rather than feared by her parents? What has she done wrong to recall talks with her sister, that she recalls happened while in the womb?!! … … many such cases.
The point of the belief that we choose our parents before birth, is that because of their negativity and unresolved traumas that they cause us as children, these experiences teach us valuable lessons that we wouldn’t have learned otherwise. That is not to leave them off the hook and say: “oh I choose them before birth so they are innocent,” far from that. But from an inner growth perspective, the more we suffer, the more we grow(when we learn our lesson of course). Of course, where the issue begins is when people use the notion that we choose our parents to balance out the guilt from being angry with their parents, because they don’t want to deal with it.
Perhaps your soul chose your parents precisely so that you could make articles like this, because it is sickenning how many people defend their parents, are afraid to see their parents in the right light, and to criticize them for inhumane behavior and toxic parenting, but you were born into a toxic family system, seen through it, and are now sharing with the world, how not to be. Everything happens for a reason, and i do believe we choose the experiences we need, to grow and progress as a soul, and do what we were ment to do in the world. If you had loving parents, you would not be making these valuable articles now. Blessings and much love.
I think that according to the spiritual theory you are referring to, the reason you, DM, “chose” your parents was because they were the perfect set up to bring you to the work that you are doing now: showing others how and giving them permission to call out their own parents’ damaging behavior and to protect and even distance themselves from those dangerous caregivers. But I have difficulty subscribing to it as well. I think the motivation behind that philosophy is well-meaning: it is trying to get the individual to stop feeling a victim of the universe and feel empowered, someone who chooses his or her destiny, right now as it has always been. But that whole god-is-the-torturer and the-tortured Hindu notion still rings off the mark for me. It’s akin to saying the essence of earthly creation is fundamentally sado-masochistic. “Fundamental goodness” (pleasure) in the intentional (predetermined/chosen) distribution of pain and pleasure. Something is off. At the same time, if what you endured at the hands of your parents is what motivated the creation of your body of work — then how can it not be good? Even wonderful? Your mission has been so important for so many, or at least, to me. So you see, it goes round and round (for me), unresolved…
You can either become wounded or become wise, anyway it hurts a shit ton but you can make manure out of it . One day at a time, one step at a time, the only thing we can choose is our response to what happens to us, there lies our freedom, cultivate in yourself what your parents didn’t . A ton of words which are not easy at all to put into action, it is dreadly and painful, until you become stronger and more resilient .
As usual I always enjoy what DM has to say, but in the case of this specific idea that people use in conversation, this one is a bit different, because we can’t prove that this is what happens to us (assuming we exist before we are born, then are born into the bodies we inhabit today). So when a person says this out loud they are on thin ice already. And people who say that to anyone else as some kind of “advice” are being abusive and trying to make the other person feel responsible for something, because they cannot prove what they are saying is fact; however we CAN prove that bringing a child into this world without a sincere and honest desire to give life and be the caretaker to another human being leads to untold suffering, wounding and sadness for that child who will in turn pass it on to society.
Haha yeah Daniel, like you at 4:03 saying you were more mature than them at 20, I remember when I was a child and teenager in high-school thinking g my parents especially my mom and her husband that they were immature, too immature many times. And I’ve been learning the last several years that they were not just immature but very narcissistic or even psychopathic. But get this Daniel, I believe it’s more than just narcissisism or psychopathy. I think they’re demonically possessed. And me possibly cursed with some family curse. I know that might sound kind of crazy to you but I’ve been leaning about them (my family) and this kind of stuff for several years now along with my lifetime of experience. Also Daniel I’ve been perusal some of JERRY MARZINSKYS YouTube articles lately about how he’s been a therapist for over 35 years mostly for prisoners in jail I guess but he talks about how schizophrenic voices many of them had are actually demons speaking to them. I’ve watched most of your articles for over a year now and you’ve indicated many times about not really believing in the spiritual realms or supernatural, paranormal type of things. I don’t really know a whole lot about it either but I know I’ve experienced it. Anyway I really like your article but you ought to look into some of this stuff Daniel. You should watch some of Jerry Marzinskys YouTube articles and tell me, us what you think about schizophrenic voices actually being demons talking to their victims. Thanks Daniel and God bless you and your loved ones.
I did ask my herself why I picked my parents. It was for me to learn to be more selfish. I learned my lesson. I’m not sure if I really want to separate from my parents but I know I want to keep them at arm’s length. I don’t think they serve me on my life purpose anymore. It’s just sad but true. I think it’s important to ask yourself why you picked your parents. It might give you Insight on what life and what learning lessons you wanted.
I’ve had many friends in new age circles during the years (as I was “gifted” with an ability to reach certain kinds of “alternate states of mind”). I never really truly agreed with the belief (because that’s what it is) that we choose this life in particular and especially our parents/surroundings. This is my opinion. IF there is a choice before this life it probably deals with the fundamentals “live or ‘stay dead'” and life or “this existence” is UNKNOWN in what that choice might mean or become (likewise is suicide – “the reverse choice”). Also. IF we chose our parents there should be some sort of “consent form” (which actually many new age people believe there is). But I would argue that if you cannot remember signing an extremely important consent form and if that form also is absent from this reality we actually live our daily lives in… then it is purely a matter of belief/religion (but that is enough for many AND it’s of course being abused as “enough evidence”). When you ask those believers exactly HOW this consent and choice would work you are confronted with absurdities (some might SOUND nice but if you take the time to analyze them… they are suddenly not so nice). Religion and many forms of “spirituality” deals infinitely more with us on a psychological and cultural level than anything possibly “outside of us/life/existence”. I’m absolutely not ruling out that there might be “bigger truths” (for us to reach as humans) BUT I am SURE we are VERY far away from them currently!
Are you up in a very dysfunctional family however, I choose to love my parents regardless of their mistakes I 100% forgive them and I hope my kids will do the same for me. None of us are perfect and I believe we should love our parents may not be their best friend or however, you see fit, but you should love your parents and forgive them.
0:30 i think my parents said this once too, i mean ofc they would say it because it benefits them. some parents hate the idea of kids just being their independant selves and them not choosing their parents. so they beleive in this idea that cant be proved because obviously they know that they didnt choose the kids they wanted
I do believe you choose your parents before birth. I think it is very important to understand life is just a learning experience. You don’t have to stay with your parents. Telling someone that they should forgive their parents is not healthy. You’re allowed to feel about however you want in your life. That’s part of The Learning Experience. I think it’s important you make articles like this. BC if people think to themselves they should stay with their parents because they chose them that’s just toxic. You need to do what is right for you. It’s just a learning experience. You are not bound to anything. It’s also very important to make your parents take accountability that’s their learning experience.
Dear Daniel. It’s not the “children” who choose their parents. Wrong! It’s their HIGHER SELF/SPIRIT that chooses the parents. And the parents’ higher selves choose THEM. This is done during the planning stage. During the pre-birth planning stage (which happens under the guidance of spirit guides), the “children” are not really children. They are advanced spirits who choose these kind of challenges in their upcoming life. It’s all a misunderstanding on your part. You did not choose this family. YOUR HIGHER SELF did. Your higher self/spirit/oversoul knows what kind of challenges it needs in THIS lifetime. So it brings YOU into this physical world to experience the karma you’ve been through with these parents. Through YOU, it gets wiser. But as a rule you are not supposed to know this. Because as we come into this 3D reality, we forget the pre-planning stage. It is done SUBCONSCIOUSLY. So that you go through these experience as if it’s real. So as a rule, we have to forget that we actually did this.
That’s a distorted version of reincarnation that I’ve never heard before. You don’t “choose” your fate. Nobody does. But that certainly does not mean that we don’t “deserve” our fate. Everyone deserves their fate. That’s how karma works. Being is doom, that’s what I always say. Nothing wrong with that. So in a limited sense, you can say that people “choose” their fate in the next life in a very limited way, by choosing to live a certain way which will necessarily bring about certain results. But the vast majority of people are neither self-aware nor generally aware enough to reliably predict the consequences of their actions, so the “choice” does not exhibit the required agency or informed consent that would constitute a “free choice” scenario in the parlance of most people. I don’t take the pseudospirituality of uncomplex thinkers very seriously, though.
Sorry Daniel, this time I totally disagree… yes you can try to bypass emotional pain with wrongly applying spiritual concepts onto the emotional self. But you Daniel also confuse the emotional and mental levels with deeper levels in this article… yes it is healing to do all the stuff you say in your articles. But it is also healing to look at deeper karmic patterns. To see this deeper patterns gives the pain and the transformation more meaning and it makes the child in yourself proud. Proud to take a part of human suffering on its shoulders… This kind of meaning, that can only be seen, when you look at deeper patterns, deeper than emotions, can not be compensated by any other psychological method… but it can also not be done instead of the emotinal healing you describe. Both is important… or you stay stuck in this kind of complaining, angry pattern of not understanding why this happened to you…
I still believe that our soul chooses our life experiences before we’re born. On the other side, we’re much more aware of our immortality, much more aware of complete love and total forgiveness, and from that vantage point we often choose painful experiences in order to grow as a spirit and come exactly to the awareness that somebody like a Daniel Mackler came to: I can manifest all that I desire, I’m already complete and it’s fun to experience that. Sometimes, we might say “oh gee, I tried learning that lesson for 5 lifetimes but I keep getting distracted by sex and appearance and other people’s validation! Why don’t I try being ugly for my next life?” And your spirit guides will say “Oh no don’t do that to yourself, just try looking plain.” It’s a little bit like (no analogy is ever perfect) when we sign up for university and take on a rough credit load on a semester, and midway through the semester we say “why did I do this to myself? I didn’t NEED to do this to myself in the first place!”
I’m glad I wasn’t the only one who have noticed that this concept is absolutely insane and sickening. I don’t know what kind of a sick person would come up with such absurd ideas. Reincarnation is not a voluntary process, otherwise everyone would choose to be totally happy, fully free of suffering and enlightened just like that. I do believe in karmic fate as a result of completely unconscious past decisions, but I think that we can all agree that no mentally sane person would consciously choose violence and abuse. How sick in the head somebody would have to be to actually promote such idea. There should be a law that regulates the New Age community and the mental disease they’re propagating. It’s like they’re so lazy that they have to come up with new explain-it-all stories. I had to go to a psychologist after psychics brainwashed me with their bullshit. These people need a job.
You chose for compation. Those great people you would like to born on them familys didnt feel o have a baby on the time you were ready to born. Maybe you where the sabe than your parents and living with them made you to chose to improve and to be better. They parents are responsible to them on life. If they aren’t caring for than on lifes they will not get to care to anything alse. But maybe even like this they are doing them best. We always feel we are doing the thing we should to do.
This conversation is getting ridiculous. There is no way you can comment meaningfully on another person’s experience with nde. Not believing it does not give you the standing to say it isn’t true. Each experiencer of nde knows their truth. So many nde have similar recountings, which support the undeniability of the truth of nde’s. Some have expressed their knowledge of having picked their parents who would have given them the right circumstances in their lives to bring them to the direction of their life plan. I can see that you would not have wanted your parents, Daniel. Through resisting them, you ultimately did find strength and direction for your own life. You have given us much insight on the problems with parents and children. I think you need to give this more thought.
Its not that simple. We are born again and again and if we haven’t raised our consciousness and lack any spiritual knowledge then we’ re not consciously choosing our parents but going according to our tendencies- could be our addiction, obsession, hate, love or avenge. You could be born to somebody you have such emotions. If one has raised his/her consciousness then the person will know how to choose where and who we would like to be born into. In the big scheme of things we are exactly where we’re meant to be in our sojourn of seeking God which is the ultimate. By “God” I mean becoming one with the Universe/ becoming enlightened/ Christ consciousness/Divine consciousness. We are very attached to our parents either in love/ or anger/ hatred/resent/etc . but they are our parents just in this life. We have had many other parents and have been parents many times. Think about it. Don’t identify too much with this set of parents in this lifetime. I apologize if I hurt any feelings. I have only good intention.
In spiritual / metaphysical world, Heyoka empaths or “pain eaters” are souls that volunteer in this earth to fullfill a mission. It’s the souls that go against societal norms and create its own path. The mission is to heal the humanity by chaos. The complete honesty and just by the very essence trigger many people and serve as mirrors. It is a lonely path. In the 3D world, these are the outsiders, weird, eccentrics, out of the norm people who refuse to be bound by societal norms. According to the people who are advanced on their spiritual journey, these heyoka empaths souls volunteered in this earth to be in highly dysfunctional family generations. It’s their training ground. The purpose is to to break the generational curse in a family system and bring light to others. Babies do not have the capability to choose in which family they incarnated in but the souls may do. I remember my ex husband told that when he was about 3 yrs of age, he looked at the mirror and said “oh you are a boy this time.” This came from someone who isn’t spiritual at all.
Ever heard of Hellinger work? he says that families are constellations Bert Hellinger wrote over 30 books on the subject of spiritual awareness related to families and souls that incarnate and reincarnate together… I did one workshop and was blown away by the healing that occured wikipedia has information about his works with family constellations and a list of all of his books that are quite fascinating
It is not ridiculous, it is used by New Age eventually, but it is not from there. It is Biblical, but people do not get it. It is a team work we choose to participate for The Good Of The Multitudes as part of the Big plan of God. You don’t understand how much Narcissism is related to the Bible: the Bible talks continuously of that( follow The Royal Wee in YouTube if you want to get that perspective). And Narcissism is the sxxt you(too,maybe without knowing, cause you focus mainly on the perspective of the victim, giving loud voice to all the shades and shadows of that situation- and bless you for doing so cause you are so extremely validating Man!) and other are talking so much about. Indeed, this is a moment of generalised awakening against this demonic thing put in place by satan to entrap us on Earth..via repetitive traumas. Spirituality IS linked to psychology which is linked to the physical reality we live in every day. But if we do not see the link between ALL the 3 plains, we are not able to fully understand the sorrow of the physical plain either. Stay more connected with God, Born Again and things will be shown to you. Don’t say bad of what you don’t understand or know, cause that is only your perspective and as singularity, it is partial. Big hug lion Daniel!
Wow you all are so lost, I’m so sorry you’re all falling for this BS. How do you think people have came to the conclusion that we choose our own parents? Because their children have mentioned it when they were babies. You can’t call everyone’s parents or children a liar. Or try to say they are all mentally ill or all having the same delusion. There is plenty of overwhelming evidence of reincarnation also, which most of those stories come from children as well. So how can anyone truly justify all of that without giving it some credibility? Please enlighten me lol because I don’t buy it’s all a lie.
Blessings on figuring it out. Watch more near-death experience recountings on You-tube. If you don’t forgive your parents in this life, you can keep trying. The next life will try it again. After many attempts the contract can be torn up between you. Have you found Dolores Cannon? We’re here to love, forgive, and learn lesson.