The speech highlighted the impact of toxic parenting on children and the importance of addressing these issues. It highlighted the 8 signs of bad parenting, such as avoidance and neglect, physical or verbal abuse, setting a bad example, favoritism or partiality, and oppression. Neglect is a clear sign of bad parenting, as a parent consistently fails to provide basic necessities like food, clothing, shelter, and emotional support.
The speaker also discussed the importance of removing toxic people from one’s life, even if they are their parents. They also discussed the difference between good parenting and bad parenting, emphasizing the importance of recognizing and addressing the issues that contribute to negative behavior in children.
The speaker also discussed the challenges of being a single mom and the impact of Harry the Bunny’s theme song on children’s behavior. They argued that there are no “bad” kids, but just those with poor parenting. They also expressed their frustration when a young child throws a tantrum and someone else comments on it, highlighting the need for a more balanced approach to parenting.
In conclusion, the speech highlighted the importance of addressing the issues of toxic parenting and finding ways to thrive in the face of them.
📹 Not all parents are good | Dr. Sherrie Campbell | TEDxDanville
It seems taboo to say the words “bad parents” out loud because all we are indoctrinated to know is the good parent. And make no …
Can parents yelling cause PTSD?
Yelling in a relationship can lead to various psychological effects, including depression, fear, strained communication, stress, low self-esteem, anxiety, and PTSD. The more you experience yelling, the more helpless you feel, which can result in persistent sadness and feelings of worthlessness. Fear can lead to a loss of trust and an unhealthy relationship, while strained communication can result from poor communication. Stress can result from high blood pressure, headaches, and heart issues.
Low self-esteem can result from believing your feelings and boundaries don’t matter to your partner, leading to humiliation when yelled at. Anxiety can result from increased heart rate, hyperventilation, or panic attacks due to being yelled at. PTSD symptoms can include insomnia, feeling the need to be on guard, easily startled, and self-destructive behavior.
To address these long-term effects, it is essential to seek help from mental health professionals who can help work through mental health symptoms like depression, anxiety, or PTSD. Cognitive processing therapy and other modalities can help you get to the root of these issues, or you can work through them in family or couples counseling. Taylor Counseling Group offers high-quality, affordable mental health services, providing a warm environment and highly trained counselors to help you work towards a happier, healthier future.
What is depleted mother syndrome?
Mom burnout, also known as depleted mother syndrome, is a feeling of mental, emotional, and physical exhaustion, depersonalization, and lack of fulfillment resulting from intense child care demands. It is more common among women due to the disproportionate burden of parenting responsibilities on mothers, even when they work full-time outside the home. Symptoms of mom burnout include extreme feelings of exhaustion, depersonalization, and lack of fulfillment.
Can poor parenting cause trauma?
Negative experiences in childhood can increase a child’s risk of developing mental health issues, physical harm, hazardous behaviors, chronic diseases, and lack of resources or educational opportunities. These experiences can lead to PTSD, depression, and anxiety, which can prevent up to 21 million cases of depression. Parenting styles can be authoritative or authoritarian. Authoritative parenting involves setting realistic expectations, establishing clear rules and boundaries, paying attention to opinions, and being kind with praise.
On the other hand, authoritarian parenting prioritizes discipline to help children become their best selves. Authoritarian parenting imposes rigid restrictions, disciplines, and has high expectations, without promoting open communication. Both types of parenting styles are considered sensible and successful for children’s development. Protecting children from negative experiences could have prevented up to 21 million cases of depression.
How to repair bad parenting?
To prevent bad parenting, it is essential to listen to your child’s thoughts and feelings, provide appropriate consequences, label behavior, don’t withhold attention, show love and affection, and let them make mistakes. It is common to question whether you are a bad parent after a rough day, but the fact that you are concerned about making the right parenting choices is a good sign that you are not actually a bad parent. By doing so, you can help your child develop healthy relationships and avoid negative consequences.
What is the most damaging parenting style?
Neglectful parenting not only impacts cognitive and academic aspects but also has long-term mental health consequences for children. Children raised in neglectful environments may experience low self-confidence, increased risk of depression, and mental health issues like anxiety, depression, substance use disorders, and eating disorders. Physical abuse is often considered the first thought, but emotional abuse and neglect can have more significant impacts on a child’s development than physical or sexual abuse.
Research suggests that children who have experienced neglect may experience trauma levels similar to those who suffer from physical abuse. Both neglect and physical abuse can have enduring effects on a child’s socio-emotional well-being.
Is my child emotionally damaged?
Emotional abuse can manifest in various ways, including avoiding or running away from home, low self-esteem, delays in development, anxiety, disruptive behavior, extreme behavior, difficulty connecting with parents, withdrawal, feeling worthless, increased fear, guilt, self-blame, lying, stealing, lack of trust in adults, self-harming or suicidal thoughts, and drug and alcohol use. These signs can indicate a child’s emotional, psychological, and physical problems, as well as unhealthy coping strategies or habits like sucking, biting, rocking, and self-harm.
Can kids recover from bad parenting?
The National Library of Medicine states that bad parenting skills contribute to anxiety and depression in adolescents. Adolescents growing up with critical or harsh parenting are at increased risk for negative outcomes such as externalizing behaviors, withdrawn behavior, trait anxiety, depression symptoms, depersonalization, interpersonal rejection sensitivity, anger, and poor health. Hostile parenting involves frequent harsh treatment and discipline, which can be physical or psychological.
This can involve shouting at children regularly, routine physical punishment, isolating them when they misbehave, damaging their self-esteem, or punishing them depending on the parent’s mood. Together, healing is possible.
Is it too late to fix bad parenting?
Work through your feelings of shame, embarrassment, and regret on your own time with a trusted guide like a therapist. It is important to remember that adult children still expect guidance from their parents, and they may feel similar emotions when discussing childhood issues. Avoid black and white thinking and remember that your child is coming to you to discuss their childhood because they want to connect and repair, not because they hate you or want to punish you.
It is never too late to repair, and there are children who would have been grateful to hear an apology from their parent on their deathbed. Do not underestimate your power in this moment and let go of the belief that there is no way to fix what you did.
Some situations where an apology from a parent may not be the correct response include adult children struggling with addiction, abusive parents setting boundaries to protect themselves or family members, adult children angry about financial support, or adult children angry about a parent’s decision to leave their marriage, move, or get a new job. Focusing on compassion and empathy with boundaries can preserve the relationship while honoring yourself.
Some examples of how to approach adult children’s feelings include:
- Expressing love and care for your child and not taking part in fueling their addiction.
- Offering assistance with grocery shopping, laundry, and job search.
- Listening to your child’s feelings about their divorce and understanding that it was hard for them.
In summary, working through your emotions and addressing them with a therapist can help you navigate the difficult times in adulthood. Remember that it is never too late to repair your actions and that there is always a chance to make a positive impact on your child’s life.
What is vengeful mother syndrome?
Malicious Parent Syndrome is a term used to describe a divorced parent intentionally harming another parent, often mistreating their children to damage the other parent’s reputation. In Texas, it is rarely mentioned in court, but parental alienation is a common issue in child custody cases. The impact of a parent’s malicious or alienating behavior on the outcome of a child custody case is significant. As a child custody lawyer, I can attest to the emotional challenges faced by parties in dealing with divorce and custody issues.
What is cold mother syndrome?
Cold mother syndrome is a parenting style that is typified by emotional distance, dismissiveness, and rejection, which frequently results in the neglect of a child’s emotional needs.
How to let go of bad parenting?
Bad parenting can have lasting effects on an individual’s life, even in adulthood. Child-actress and podcast host Jennette McCurdy’s book, “I’m Glad My Mom Died”, highlights the impact of unstable, abusive, and violent home environments on a person’s mental health. McCurdy’s struggle with bulimia, alcohol dependency, and identity stems from her unstable, abusive, and violent upbringing. Despite the challenges, McCurdy has found strength in her past trauma and is now better equipped to recover.
The Power of Letting Go suggests that life opens up more opportunities for positivity and happiness once negative experiences are put behind us. It is essential to learn to let go of toxic connections to gain a positive outlook on life and improve self-worth. It is not enough to love your parents if the relationship causes pain. It is crucial to be more open to your emotions and seek therapy to heal from the trauma caused by bad parenting.
📹 Consequences of Over Protected Children- Jordan Peterson
About Jordan Peterson: Jordan Bernt Peterson is a Canadian clinical psychologist and a professor of psychology at the University …
She is speaking so much truth!! I know everything she is speaking on from experience. The world needs to pay heed to this message so much. How much different our world would be if we could have healthy and whole parents raising children, and the secret to that: bringing up children that are unharmed and truly loved by their parent/guardians.
I guess I wasn’t always a good mother. But now, my wonderful daughter is 22 years old, she works as a support worker with mentally disabled people and she has a diploma in animation and illustration,and when I look at her, I am filled with pride, so I did something right. Now I feel that being a good parent if we love and respect our child. We give them wings and don’t cut them off. It is a great happiness to support her in finding her own beautiful life and not living mine. I don’t think we should live our parents’ lives because we have our own and we show the greatest respect to them by living a beautiful, rich and happy life. Then they can be proud of us.🥰
Again leaving a comment for anyone who needs to see this, I hope that this wonderful woman gets more credit for her brave and honest work. I feel seen for the first time as most professional bodies do not recognise or care for people like us. I am glad that this is becoming more mainstream because the shame and guilt one can go through is not necessary. May this woman be blessed all the days of her life. I am eternally grateful ❤
Now, imagine going through all that (which I did with my NM and EF)…..AND suffer the trauma of a destructive cult. My NM forced me at age 6 into a cult that proceeded to psychologically terrorize me for 20 years. I wanted to be anyone else as a kid. I wanted to die in my teens. I was broken for so long.
I agree. This was my experience also. At the end of their lives, I made peace with them, but I also saw that their actions had consequences, and it wasn’t my job to save or rescue them from those consequences. It was freeing and empowering to stop trying to help them, because they didn’t want my help. I gave them love at the end, but I could not absolve them of their guilt, in how they treated me. I watched them die as they had lived, treasuring what they loved (themselves), and trashing the one who loved them (me).
This is a very serious topic and one that in many cases continues to travel for generations. It’s heart warming and shocking to hear this kind of honesty. We shouldn’t be surprised by the parenting images we are served. In the matters of human existence, we all look a bit glossy and glossed over in the name of successful lives and living the dream. Nobody wants to hear about the nightmares. Yet here we are, thank you for your opening this conversation!
Thank you Dr. Sherrie. Your words pull me out of a dark place and back into the light. After decades of abuse, when I’m not feeling strong her years of gaslighting start to seep back in, and I return to thinking that it’s all my fault. I’ve turned to your work in the past to pull me out of that mindset and I know I will use this powerful and validating article to do so again in the future. Thank you for standing up for all of us.
Great talk Dr Sherrie! I really felt this. Unfortunately I had 0 parenting skills because I was the scape goat of a dysfuntional family. Oh how I regret that it didn’t stop with me in time for my own children. I was still running from it at the time. The abuse continues until today. My own children are into some very dark stuff . And I know that how they turned out is my fault. I pray for them daily and the sorrow continues because my family has brain washed them against me. So I get it from every angle. Its like sitting in a bull ring and holding your breath because you never know whose going to hit you next
Being adopted, you’re second rate, sometimes. “More please”. She is absolutely right. And I would sue her today if the trauma bond hadn’t been so strong, and she had so many friends. She lived a very comfortable life on my inheritance my Dad left when he had a heart attack. I was 7. And I have a special needs brother I 1000% approve of this article. And she was just so pleasant. And I really deplore her and encourage anyone here to get it out.
When I was a kid, my mom went to school to be a drug counselor (I thought she was a psychologist lol) she changed the reasoning she gave for not working in the field from “because I’m addicted to cigarettes” to a less noble, but surely more honest “I didn’t like how everyone blames their parents” and it’s probably because she heard people dealing with trauma from less than or the same ways she “parented” her children
I absolutely agree that abuse should be validated. I am absolutely disgusted by professionals who profit by separating children for profit. The awareness of corrupt governmental control is just as important today. Irretrievably broken families? That term or anyone who uses it in such a general way terrifies me. God help us.
My mother abandoned our family leaving us in huge financial distress and then a few years later reappeared with cancer and everyone around me at the time was like “you have to forgive her” to the point where I just did, because I thought she was going to die. Then she didn’t! Such a plot twist lol and then I had to just move on into this relationship with her that I didn’t want or even know how to have and worst of all she just thought it was all okay because I’d said I forgave her. Still trying to figure it all out tbh
“Do not think that I have come to bring peace to the earth. I have not come to bring peace, but a sword. For I have come to set a man against his father, and a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law. And a person’s enemies will be those of his own household.” – Jesus, (Matthew 10:34-36)
I’m a little conflicted about this talk… I think it’s important to discuss and address parental abuse but it’s something that could easily alienate and stigmatize parents who are just struggling with their own mental health. They might not fall under the abusive category but just need a little help, and maybe the fear of being labelled abusive will actually stop them from seeking that help?