Belief in oneself is crucial for personal development, as it influences how we interpret events, feel, and behave. Self-confidence, self-trust, and autonomy are essential skills to build, as they help us understand our abilities, qualities, and judgment. Self-doubt is a lack of confidence regarding ourselves and our abilities, which can hinder success and belief in ourselves. Humility is a healthy character, and believing in oneself requires reflection on past achievements, setting attainable goals, fostering a positive mindset, and surrounding oneself with supportive people.
Believing in oneself is the lynchpin of exceptional leadership, as it allows the mind to function at its full potential. Limiting beliefs, such as belief in oneself, abilities, and those around us, can hold us back from reaching our full potential. It is essential to recognize that most personal development is built on a foundation of inadequacy and that it is not the job of books, workshops, or gurus to help you look critically into the mirror.
Sasha Heinz, Ph.D., a positive psychology expert, debunks self-help myths and popular fallacies regarding personal development, emphasizing that liberation comes when we stop caring about others’ opinions. By focusing on self-confidence, self-trust, and autonomy, individuals can overcome obstacles and achieve their goals.
In conclusion, believing in oneself is essential for personal growth and success. By recognizing and overcoming limitations, individuals can live happier and more fulfilling lives.
📹 A guide to believing in yourself (but for real this time) | Catherine Reitman | TEDxToronto
TV star, Catherine Reitman, shares her lessons learned in seeing ideas thru to their completion, not allowing others to reshape …
What happens when you stop believing in yourself?
A lack of self-belief can impede one’s capacity to act, undergo change, or pursue improvement. Indeed, the anticipation of failure serves to enhance the probability of failure. Consequently, self-belief serves as the catalyst for initiating positive change.
What to do when you don’t believe in yourself anymore?
To boost self-belief, create healthy routines, surround yourself with positive people, feed your mind, resist fear, draw on inner strength, acknowledge victories, and work on your strengths. Believing in yourself is crucial for success, and self-efficacy, or the ability to believe in yourself, can improve goal setting and success in areas like academic performance or quitting smoking. Being a cheerleader or critic can help you overcome obstacles and achieve your goals.
Why do I lack self belief?
Low self-esteem is frequently precipitated by childhood experiences wherein individuals receive a combination of positive and negative messages about themselves from a multitude of sources. The message of inadequacy may persist, as it may prove challenging to meet expectations from others or from oneself. Furthermore, stress and life events, such as illness or bereavement, can serve to exacerbate this issue.
Why do I no longer believe in myself?
Poor decisions or emotional abuse can lead to self-doubt and a need for validation from others. This can lead to a lack of confidence, which can worsen over time as individuals become disconnected from their needs and instincts. Not trusting oneself can negatively impact physical and mental health, leading to mental health conditions like anxiety, depression, and guilt, difficulty sleeping due to ruminations over decisions, and physical health issues like impaired memory, heart problems, and diabetes.
When you lose faith in yourself?
Stopping believing in oneself can lead to a focus on surviving rather than thriving, leading to a loss of zest for life and joy. This can be attributed to low self-esteem, fear, and self-doubt. Despite efforts to overcome these feelings, they can sometimes pop up without invitation, causing the idea that one doesn’t have what it takes to succeed. This can feel like starting from scratch again, as the focus shifts from thriving to surviving. It’s crucial to recognize and address these issues to maintain a healthy mindset and overall well-being.
Why did I stop trusting myself?
Trust issues may stem from ruminating on past mistakes or misfortunes. Many people believe they need to analyze and replay past mistakes to avoid future mistakes. Healthy reflection can lead to new insights and behavior change, while unhealthy rumination is not productive and compulsive. Healthy reflection is deliberate and intentional, while unhealthy rumination is a habit that occurs without any benefit. It is crucial to distinguish between healthy and unhealthy rumination to avoid a negative impact on one’s self-esteem and overall well-being.
What is it called when I don’t believe in myself?
Low self-esteem is a condition where individuals often have negative thoughts about themselves, often due to early childhood experiences like bullying or neglect. This can lead to difficulties in relationships and work or school problems. To improve self-esteem, individuals can challenge negative thoughts and celebrate their achievements. Low self-esteem can be caused by early childhood experiences, such as bullying or neglect, and can have negative effects on relationships and work. It is essential to seek medical help when needed and to find resources and support to help manage self-esteem.
What causes one to lose self-belief?
Low self-esteem can be caused by various factors, including ongoing stressful life events, poor treatment from a partner, parent, or carer, and ongoing medical problems. It is important to note that self-esteem is your opinion of yourself, and while everyone may have occasional lack of confidence, those with low self-esteem are often unhappy or unsatisfied with themselves. Boosting self-esteem requires attention and daily practice.
What stops people from believing in themselves?
Previous unsuccessful experiences may result in a loss of confidence and a fear of repeating them. Furthermore, the tendency to constantly evaluate oneself in comparison to others, particularly in situations where one feels inferior, can lead to a deterioration in self-assurance and a questioning of one’s self-worth.
What happens when you are not your true self?
Living unaligned with our true selves can lead to reduced satisfaction and fulfillment, as we may feel trapped or unfulfilled. To rediscover our true self, we should engage in reflection and introspection, such as spending time alone, journaling, or meditation, to understand our core values, beliefs, and desires. Seeking support from friends, family, or professionals, as well as surrounding ourselves with supportive individuals, can help us rediscover our true selves. Consider working with a therapist or counselor to navigate this process.
What will happen if you are not true to yourself?
Abandoning one’s true self can lead to several negative consequences. It can result in a loss of identity, which can cause emptiness and confusion, making it difficult to make decisions or find purpose in life. It can also damage relationships, as authentic connections are built on trust and vulnerability, making it difficult to form deep connections. Additionally, living unaligned with one’s true self can lead to reduced satisfaction and fulfillment, as individuals may feel trapped or unfulfilled, lacking a sense of purpose or meaning in life.
📹 Stop doubting yourself and go after what you really, really want | Mario Lanzarotti | TEDxWilmington
In his TEDxWilmington talk, Mario Lanzarotti discusses his secrets for self-development and personal growth. Mario is a speaker.
I’ve been on set with her a bunch of times on workin moms as an extra, and she is actually such a boss! She directs while she acts, she’s able to work with the actors and change up the script as they see fit, super hands on, calls all the shots, while taking care of her kids during her lunch break. She’s super friendly, personable, always introduces herself to everyone, and is such an inspiration. She is the literal definition of a workin mom, and that’s why her show comes off so real and genuine. I’ve been on many shows/movie sets and I’ve never seen anyone work like her. She mentioned it was hard work in her talk, but I thought I needed to tell you guys how hard she actuallyyyyy works lol. She was made for this, can’t wait to see what she comes up with next!
Thank you Catherine! It felt like you were speaking to me. As a female screenwriter with no resume accept two AWESOME screenplays, I battle with that voice in my head that says no one will ever take my work seriously. Thank you for your terrific show which I LOVE and I don’t even have children. And thank you for your authenticity in sharing your journey; it definitely inspired me.
I was turned on to working moms in a breastfeeding support group. It was so relatable that another mom and I started naming other moms after the characters in the show. After the birth of my first son I decided I wanted to go to college, but it’s been 11 years since I graduated HS. After the birth of my second son I realized I wanted to be a lactation consultant. When I first started back, it wasn’t too challenging. This semester I had my first ever anxiety attack and then for the first time in my life, I started to doubt myself. perusal this has been so inspiring and I have watched it a few times over.
This is so timely and amazing. First of all I had severe postpartum depression and anxiety and no one truly understands what that is like unless they’ve had it. So hugs to you for using your experience to inspire other women. I’m a writer and have also used a very specific topic of religious trauma and the purity culture to write a novel. The more I am on Instagram reading the stories of women and LGBTQ people who were raised like me I know I have a voice. And it’s a pretty damn good one. It’s hard to know how to step into the arena but why NOT me? I know there’s people out there that need this book. I just need to keep at it and jump in full throttle.
When she cried about the guys jabbing at her for not being with her child. I felt for her soo much, I STARTED CRYIN. man, people don’t truly understand how much you love your kid and how much it’s conflicting when you work to support your family (AND KID(s)), not to mention, just doing something for yourself for once. She is such an inspiration. I’m so glad she found her voice. Workin mom’s is hilarious and absolutely relatable. HIGHLY recommend.
I just watched the Working Moms last week and by the time almost nearly finished I felt sad coz one of my favourite show ever, very true story. Kudos to all the cast who did they great job on their character. Without my knowledge I just knew yesterday that Catherine Reitman was the Director, writer and actress. So talented mom. You are amazing woman. Thanks for the show you shared with us. God bless everyone
Absolutely loved this talk! I was in love with workin’ moms before I even knew I would become one myself! All the anxieties I felt about that role was displayed honestly and humorously. It’s been a beacon for me ever since my discovery of it. Her story so resonates with me for so many reasons. All of the Above! Today I choose revisit those dreams and continue to say YES in my toughest time in my life to embrace the YES🙏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
00:33 🌱 Feeling powerless and unqualified can be a precursor to recognizing the choice to grow beyond your comfort zone. 01:43 🚪 Feeling stuck in a career without a say can prompt exploring new avenues, even if they seem beyond your capabilities. 04:38 💡 Recognizing the choice involves acknowledging the critical inner voice and understanding the fear of failure versus creative passivity. 07:27 🌟 Embracing a challenging path often starts with saying “yes” to opportunities, even in moments of personal struggle or identity crisis. 09:21 📝 Pursuing a chosen path requires dedication and authenticity, ensuring your work reflects a distinctly personal voice. 11:43 🔍 Staying true to your vision and being willing to defend it is crucial, even in the face of challenges or pressures to conform. 12:55 👊 Embrace the voice and consider stepping into new arenas, as your unique perspective is a valuable gift worth exploring.
I love the show not because I can relate, but because the characters are amazing, strong and funny. It isn’t often that I laugh out loud perusal something. With workin’ moms it happens all the time. I rewatched the series shortly after finishing because nothing else on Netflix caught my interest as much as this show. I’m a woman, but that’s about the only thing that makes it relatable.
I am just a small voice but I just want to say thank you. Your show Working Moms helped me through my post partum, first time mom with little family support, starting up my own Real Estate business and many other trails we go through becoming a mother. It is so hard to deeply express how much your show effect me. my son is now one an a half. Thank you for choosing to create a true relatable show. Forever grateful.
Wow I love the words that you spoke… it spoke deeply to my heart and to many others hearts… thank you for sharing we all have a choice to make not to listen to negative thinking naysayers or small-minded people but to was stirring in our hearts and our thoughts step out and take a chance and just do it live life with no regrets thank you
Great talk, she’s an inspiration. It’s crazy to me that the bear scene was one of the things the US network wanted to cut because that was the scene that made me truly interested in what the show had to offer and I felt personally empowered by it. I don’t have kids and don’t want any but Workin’ Moms was brilliant. Networks get so caught up in the “relatable” factor that they’re willing to forgo creativity and would rather produce lackluster media.
I looooove Workin Moms. As a non-married, childless woman I was initially like eh… why would I watch this? The trailer was hilarious so I gave it a shot. I’m currently on season 6. Hahah. It’s funny, relatable, clever, and yes.. I’m catching those liberal progressive references girlfriend! Freakin love it. Good job Catherine!!
What an awesome article! So glad this showed up. 😁. Love the messages she gives women to push past those voices we all hear that keep us in inaction. Thank you for this wonderful testament to get into the arena & let another voice of who we are speak louder! We must give it a shot. 😁. Thank you for your amazing creation for us to appreciate, to relate to & to amuse us, entertain us & make us feel we aren’t alone. Thank you for doing this talk to share this backstage info. 😍
this is amazing, of a story of someone who actually succeeded with this. I don’t want to sound pessimistic but it’s realistic to remember that, for every one of her, there are also many others who have failed. When she asks if failing is so bad – well, yes, it is. For many people it will mean a life of poverty in later life, than, instead of choosing a steady career they blew it all on a dream. I’m sorry to sound pessmistic, but really not having money is also not fun.
Helps to believe in yourself when you’ve been blessed with an abundance of productivity and support and normality from a young age. We’re not all that fortunate. Some of us are cursed with a plethora of hardships including disability and born to disabled and have to take on unpaid roles out of our league to no success and still rot away today with no support. I will never be able to believe in myself because I have nothing.
She is a product of generational wealth and opportunity. Her experience may sound relatable when she says she lacks a degree or felt like she wasn’t as smart as others, but she benefited from her fathers wealth and connects. It’s less inspiring when you have the money and privilege helping you overcome those obstacles,
Sure, you may not have the resources, industry access or clout that comes with being the kid of one of the most bankable comedy directors in the world… but if you don’t have your own show, it’s because you don’t BELIEVE in yourself hard enough! (Catherine Reitman seems great, but come on… get real.)
It’s so important to get insights into the lives of successful creative because Catherine at first glance comes across as someone extremely confident, who just eased her way into the world of acting and directing /producing. It’s very easy to initially judge successful individuals and assume it was all smooth sailing because they tend to carry such a high level of self assurance but dig a little deeper and you’ll discover that this confidence and self assurance is only developed through grit, loss, grief, rejection, tremendous hardship (sometimes) and many bouts of depression and despair. Thank you for sharing your story, we love your show and we hope you never stop performing and writing 💜💜and thank you for not giving up!!
Im here to share because I was there before… Call out to Jesus. He loves you and wants to heal you & free you from all of it! My testimony is so long to share it here. I will tell you I was breathing bc I had air in my lungs but I felt dead and drowning in despair. . He picked up my brokeness and making it new! I will tell you that what Hes done for me He can do for you too. All glory to God. Please believe HE LOVES YOU, there is HEALING & FREEDOM for you in Jesus mighty name Amen!!
Your show came at the perfect time…from a Psych major who had a thesis due, needed a break and finally decided to give in to perusal what I knew I’d relate to. A warmth came over me from first sight, seeing your name written all over the creds gave me inspo ! Thank you for letting us know we are not alone. 😍
Yeah, golly, this must be hard for a super rich, seriously connected woman…I really wanted to enjoy this bc I love the speaker’s show, but I’m pretty sick of these condescending “inspirational” speeches from people who have been given everything in life then tell the rest of us that all we need to do is choose to follow our bliss or whatever….yeah most of us have too many bills for this “choice” to follow our dreams. We don’t have rich dads to rescue us when we fail. All of this goes unacknowledged and when you bring it up, people go, “Well you just don’t have the right attitude.” No, you just don’t live in reality. Give me a lifelong broke 40 something fast food working single mom who made this “choice” and succeeded. That would be inspiring. Not, “I pitched my show to my daddy and he was mean but that’s ok, I’ll just pitch to all the other execs I already know.” Ugh.
This is a ‘guide’ only if you like following people who ramble in circles dropping names of famous people with a dash of scripted profanity for emphasis. He message is valuable, so why did she devalue it with tales of suffering from a position of First World privilege? I couldn’t determine if she was trying to show that we can be like her or she can be one of us.
I think this was fantastic minus the part about how men lead the industry so you choose to hire women. Men lead the industry because they generally have better résumé’s. And choosing to pass over a guy who has a good résumé just to choose a women who doesn’t is absolutely sexist. I am all for you doing that because I think you should hire who you want but I definitely wouldn’t hire based on being a gender that isn’t equally represented. But like I said all in all amazing speech I absolutely loved it.
Both of my parents don’t own a home. Dad lives in an RV on my uncles ranch. Mom is mentally ill and can barely keep her apartment. I work at a grocery store. All my life I have wanted to professionally sing, write, play instruments, make movies, take photos, etc. but I have always been so scared because I didn’t think there was anything for me outside of that lower/middle class. I didn’t believe it was possible for myself. And no one else did either. Until the last few years (I’m almost 28 now). All I want are the things I have always dreamed of. I am now working towards it. It will happen. I will be happy. I can do this. Edit: No, I will do this.
This article brought tears to my eyes. I have been very hesitant in jumping in and saying yes to a business model I know of no one else doing. I know I can succeed in this and that I have a lot of interest and knowledge in regards to it. However there is a fear of failure, no necessarily failure for me, but letting down my clients. What if I fail them. Doubt creeps in. I have never been depended on by strangers to help them succeed and achieve their goals and the thought of having that pressure frightens me. But the last thing I want to do is let life pass me by and not having said YES to this idea that been with me with for a while now. So I say YES to the choice and putting in the work to make it happen.
Thank you so much baby girl for this. You left me in tears I felt like I was the one giving this talk your spirit is strong. I wrote 7 short film that I’m scared to record but I promise you that after listening to this I’m no longer scared. I know one day I’ll meet you and I will show you the progress. Sending you love and light queen
Please tell me you kept the bedazzled dead tooth 😂 love your show. You are amazing. Gifted. Talented. Stunning. Funny. Smart. Wise. And just the life of the part. May God bless you and continue to bless you every step of the way. Have faith in God and know he will make the impossible possible. Stay positive. Remain faithful and be patient…..God is sending so many blessing your way.
Wow! I have so many thoughts on this lecture. First of all it was fantastic, I cried when she said “Im not here to encourage you, Im here to demand that you consider your voice”. And also I felt horrible when she spoke about the staff making fun of her for not being with her son. Terrible!! The moms already got enough guilt to deal with already!!
Idunno…I bet she’s a fantastic person, puts a lot of effort into her anything. But she fell short when she highlighted the fact that her “opponent” is a white male with certain privilege. She went directly into how she deals with the inequality affecting women in that industry, failing to recognize her own, extremely rare and very “2%” privilege. I’m very glad that she gives women an open door. That’s amazing, to do whatever you can, to bring others up to the platform you’ve found yourself placed near, prior to the work you did to hop on it, more firmly. The problem IMO, with her very anecdotal speech of empowerment, is that it’s limited to exactly that; the type, the level of privilege a person like her, begins their journey from. The inequality she highlighted for a brief moment, in the beginning, was but one step of struggle to get to where she desired to be. Whereas, the majority of the population is going to find many more inequalities to overcome, the more you find yourself in minority sects…which, in turn means far more struggle that, though it may not be true failure, with the limitations being undue, it will kill the hope of so many as they stumble at so many attempts, having to hurdle so many jumps. And because that can only happen so many times before a person either, runs out of time or runs out of hope, it’s an entirely different experience that she cannot speak toward. And yet, she’s speaking to anyone that watches this talk. There are only so many times in so many challenges where a person can fight off the self shame and blame, regardless of the fact that they’re actually worthy of what they’re earnestly working toward.
I adore this lady. I watched Working Mom’s and oh my, is it relatable! I don’t want to spoil anything for those who haven’t watched it, but I had to start over from scratch with two kids. I’ve been hurt in relationships and also forgave those who hurt me and have been in situations where I was torn asking myself, “Do I go back or do I move forward and pursue a new relationship?” This show is so raw. Like we are all humans and even the best of us have been hurt and find ourselves in unexpectedly find ourselves in complicated and messy situations. I love that her husband is in the show with her. And I’ve watched the other show, the Australian version and it’s good but not nearly as funny.
I began perusal Working Moms when it first came out. I was an 18 year old girl who was nowhere near even wanting kids, and still do not as a 20 year old. But I love this show because it encompasses so much authenticity! I sometimes think about how people my age or in my stage in life would not normally watch this show. But I guess that’s just what good TV does: it can attract anyone.
I haven’t watched “Working Moms” yet, but this talk did something to me. I’m studying cultural and social studies and I LOVE it but I also love creating art and painting. A friend of mine who is an talented artist told me that making art is not based on talent but on constantly drawing and painting in his case to get better. And now with this courage this thought appeared in my mind: “There are so many artists and painters (trained or not trained) too scared to go out with their art and present it to the world. So why shouldn’t I take the chance and get my art out to the world to see? There’s nothing to lose. If people don’t like it, it’s okay. It’s what I’ve created with love and it doesn’t have to be loved by everyone but I wanna get it outside my room and get it into exhibitions or whatever. Thank you for this talk. This gave me so much courage!
Omg I loved the show but didn’t know her story. Now I admire her even more. I’m a small business entrepreneur in Brazil and had my first baby last year during the pandemy so besides all the challenges of pregnancy and postpartum depression I had to recreate myself to save my business . It’s still being challenging but as she said, we need to say yes to ourselves. I’d love to meet her in person to say how inspiring she is to me, a working mom in Sao Paulo, Brazil 😊
Mad respect to Catherine Reitman for hiring predominantly women and giving women a chance who don’t quite have the qualifactions yet. I grew up in an abusive environment (alcoholic stepdad) and my mom had to work extra hard to provide for us as my stepdad would drink up what little he earned plus some. She is a very caring and intelligent woman and I watched her get passed up for multiple promotions because she was not a “favorite” of her head manager. As her son I am her biggest fan and with that I whole heartedly support anyone who empowers and is willing to give women a chance to polish their resume and shine. Great watch!
I came across this show when I did my master degree in Theatre in Canada. Been hooked to it ever since. The more I learn more about her, the more I admire her. When I have to come back to my homeland, Thailand I was kinda desperate to find anything inspiring to motivate me to continue doing Applied Theatre in this country. Her show feed my inspiration and now this talk really speaks to me personally. Being a working woman in a patriarchy culture is damn hard, I feel like I was being tested everyday. Sometime it makes you feel invisible…I guess I have to listen to Catherine for once again and toughen up a lil bit more!
not a mom, i am 25 and single (ready to mingle lol) but nevertheless working mom has become my comfort series on netflix. it’s so lovely to watch her performance, the sisterhood, parenthood, working environment she showed in the series are relatable and not to mention, entertaining! you are an inspiration and i can’t wait for the next season !!
It’s a great personal story, but doesn’t give any tool to change ourselves… I know the change I need to do, I know I can do it, but I don’t have the courage to do it. Never had the courage to take the right decisions, even when I knew they were right. I paid high prices because of that. I learned my lesson. And I still can’t find the courage to do it differently each time I need in life, including now. ☹
Thank you so much for sharing the speech- I didn’t realize she was Ivan Reitman’s daughter. I watched all of the working moms show and though I’m not yet a mom, it helped me see different versions of how being a mom and specifically a working mom, could look. We need more of these stories of women in the world, showing what it looks like to be a female and have a career (and a life). I hope to add to that voice myself. “You must cut your voice so sharply that it can be mistaken for nobody but you.”
I’ve never had to face down a bear for my daughter but that moment was so relatable. That’s what it means to love your children. To put your body in the line of danger. It was so empowering to watch. It was also like she was demonstrating that even though she was unsure of herself as a mother, her instincts to defend her baby were strong. And then she got that amazing rush that says, “I’m a damn good mom!” I loved it.
Yes!! yes and so much yes!! Workin Moms is genius and I love it!! I’m not a mom and I’ve never gone head to head with a bear…but I still laugh and cry and celebrate everyone on that show!!! This was a phenomenal talk and really ignited a fire inside of me to start saying yes more and push even a little out of my comfort zone!!! ⭐️
ABSOLUTELY LOVE LOVE LOVE the show “Workin Moms”!!! I had no idea she was the one running the show as well! This is so inspirational to see a woman star in and direct such a funny & EXTREMELY RELATABLE show 🤘 and this talk spoke to me on such a personal level! THANK YOU Catherine for all your hard work and dedication to your dream! I solute you Mama!!