When Did Parents Begin Lavishing Affection On Their Kids?

In 1946, Dr. Spock’s famous parenting book, Baby and Child Care, reassured parents that disciplining a child was not about following the status quo. Self-absorbed parents created role-reversed relationships with their children, where the child psychologically caters to the parent. This paper examines the principal determinants that influence parental use of spanking, which has been found to harm the relationship between a parent and child and lead to anti-social behavior, depression, increased aggressive misbehavior, and low self-esteem.

Parenting only became a verb in the last century, and a survey shows that the majority of Americans still believe children need “a good hard spanking”. The belief in spanking originated from a study on parents who were abused as children, showing commonalities in their behavior.

A doting parent is characterized by their rock-solid belief that no one on Earth has better, smarter, more talented, or better-looking children. This belief became mainstream in the 19th century, at least in the US, when Christmas became a holiday centered around children. Doting parents are uncritically fond of their children, so much so that they behave as though their own children are better.

The period for greatest impact of parenting on a child’s development occurs at adolescence, at a median age of 12 years. By providing parents with alternative strategies for disciplining their children, practitioners may have the potential to better help parents control problem behaviors.


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How was parenting different in the 80s?

Modern parenting has evolved significantly over time, with parents now actively involved in their children’s lives, from their educational journey to understanding their emotional needs. This shift has led to more stringent disciplinary actions and less negotiation between parents and children. The technological landscape has also changed, with children engaging more in physical play and family time, resulting in different social and cognitive developments.

Did parents love their children in the past?
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Did parents love their children in the past?

The traditional view of progress in childhood is often misinterpreted as a linear progression from worse to better, but this perspective overlooks the fact that these practices were a part of a specific societal segment and were driven by political necessity. Evidence suggests that children in the European Middle Ages were protected, loved, and recognized as different from adults. This is evident in the portrayals of adults allowing children to play, mothers’ grief at child death, and expected parenting behaviors.

However, Prof. Shadis argues that understanding the medieval attitude towards childhood is still a long way to go due to its chronological and cultural specificity. Scholars like Barbara Hanawalt, Nicholas Orme, Ronald Finucane, and Daniel T. Kline are leading the way in this field. The reality of history is more complex, as it does not move from “worse” to “better”, but from “different” to “different”.

Is parenting more difficult today than it was in the past?

A survey conducted by the Pew Research Center indicates that American parents are encountering greater challenges in parenting than they had anticipated. Various studies have also demonstrated that parenting is a more demanding endeavor than it was in the past.

When did people start calling parents, mum, and dad?

The terms “mum” and “dad” were introduced in the nineteenth century as a novel means of referring to one’s parents, supplanting the more conventional formal titles such as “mother” and “father” or endearing nicknames like “mama” and “papa.”

What was parenting like in the 1970s?
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What was parenting like in the 1970s?

In the 70s, parenting was characterized by attachment, French-style, and instinctive parenting. Attachment parenting involved parents picking up and taking their children wherever they needed to go, with an open bed policy in place for peace and quiet. French-style parenting involved parents rarely coming to the playground, but if they did, they would not tell their children about themselves or let them figure out their own problems. Instinctive parenting, on the other hand, was a more instinctual approach, with parents trusting their instincts to guide their children.

The only parenting guru was Dr. Spock, whose book focused solely on keeping the child alive in the physical sense. This approach was prevalent in the 70s, where parenting was an adventure without blogs or publications dedicated to a child’s ways and means.

Did medieval peasants love their children?
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Did medieval peasants love their children?

The text argues that parents in the Middle Ages and today love their children equally, regardless of the risk of losing them. It is a belief that love is inherent in human nature, regardless of the circumstances. The author disagrees with a friend’s statement that childhood before the modern era was worse and filled with more abuse. They believe that children are still neglected and abused today, as they have always been. Childhood is tough even today, with issues such as violence, favoritism, and difficulty living up to parents’ expectations.

However, unlike in the Middle Ages, the author suggests that abuse is evident in how individuals let it affect them and how it carries through to their behavior. The author urges parents to treat their children well and love them with all their heart, as they may be criticized by historians a thousand years from now.

When did gentle parenting start?
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When did gentle parenting start?

Gentle parenting, a parenting style that has gained popularity since the 1930s, is described as a “way of being” and “a mindset” that emphasizes a child’s feelings. However, the exact nature of this parenting style remains unclear. A study by Alice Davidson and her colleagues gathered data from over 100 parents with at least one child aged 2-7, asking them about their parenting style, how they were raised by their parents, and how they respond to their child’s misbehavior.

The study also asked if they identified as a “gentle parent”. The preliminary findings, which will be published soon, should be interpreted with caution due to the limited diversity of the sample. The study aims to understand the nature of gentle parenting and its potential benefits for both children and parents.

What was parenting like in the 1940s?

The 1940s and 1950s witnessed a surge in authoritarian parenting, with men assuming dominant roles in the workforce and women exerting control within the domestic sphere. Mothers were counseled to refrain from spoiling their children, who were expected to be seen but not heard.

What was the parenting style of the 70s?

The three primary Western parenting styles that have emerged over the past several decades are permissive (which emerged in the 1960s and 1970s), authoritative (which emerged in the 1980s and 1990s), and conscious parenting (which has emerged in the present era).

What did kids call their parents in the 1960s?

In the context of television shows produced during the 1950s and 1960s, the terms “mom” and “dad” were commonly used as forms of address and descriptors. In contrast, the terms “mama” and “papa” were perceived as somewhat antiquated and associated with immigrant communities.

What were the parenting styles in the 1950s?
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What were the parenting styles in the 1950s?

In the 1950s, parenting was characterized by strict upbringing, respect for elders, and obedience. Corporal punishment was a common method of discipline. Parenting is deeply influenced by the sociocultural context of each era, with each generation facing unique challenges shaped by socio-economic, technological, and political realities. From the post-war period of the 1950s, marked by reconstruction and a return to traditional values, to the digital and globalized era of 2023, expectations and norms surrounding parenting have undergone significant transformations.

The 1950s was marked by a desire for stability and a return to “normalcy”, with nations focusing on reconstruction and economic development. Traditional family structures were reaffirmed, with clearly defined parental roles. Fathers were seen as the primary breadwinner, while mothers took on the role of homemaker. Mothers were encouraged to stay at home to care for children and household chores.


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  • Adrianna’s dad, Roslee, is the kind of dad I would love to have. Happy-go-lucky, friendly, easy to talk to, caring, jokes with you. Adrianna, hope you cherish the r/s you have with your father forever. And to Roslee, please remain the same as you are now, even as Adrianna grows older in the future, you’re an amazing father.

  • Can we finally let kids be kids? cause if you don’t let them have these milestones, they’re going to grow up as well educated but lacking basic lifeskills and social skills. You might think that you’re going to give them a leg up in life, but in reality they’re going to become naive due to lack of social growth.

  • I graduated from primary school 5 years ago and I truly miss it… I felt that as long as you enjoy the learning process, primary school is a safe haven for you to play and learn with your friends 🙂 It isn’t easy but once you’ve completed it, you will look back on your beautiful 6-year journey and realise that that period is one of the best time in your life. If given a chance, I will choose to return to my primary school as a child again…

  • Mr Goh: I want you to think what type of printer you think will be suitable for Mr Goh. What’s my occupation? Student: A cheapo Mr Goh: * with hands around his hips* MY OCCUPATION’S NOT A CHEAPO! Student: A teacher Mr Goh: Yes that’s right a teacher Student: A cheapo teacher Mr Goh: Okay fine a cheapo teacher so what type of printer do you think will be suitable for a cheapo teacher? Student: The cheapest printer ever Mr Goh: rolls his eyes Gives up dy LOL!

  • Me: I hope that doesn’t happen in my school School: to late sucker Dad: hello son, we’re gonna become friends Also me: noooooo When ur test is given Dad: let me see you mark … Me: what’s wrong Dad: you got a B+ Me: yeah what’s wrong Dad: I was hoping for a A++ Me: well you got a B- My class screaming OMG😂😂😂😂

  • Only happens in malaysian and singapore parents like for example: 🇲🇾Malaysian Student: Daddy look this is the result in mathematics i got a B. 🇲🇾Malaysian parents: Wow, son am very proud of you keep it up. 🇸🇬Singaporean Student: Daddy this is the result in mathematics I got a B. 🇸🇬Singaporean parents: I am kindly disppointted on you I said 100% in to your mathematics test. Aya, I will provide you more tution for the next coming term. Reply back to me if this ever hapoend to you.

  • I just like how primary school is today. Back then it was very stressful. It was like you don’t know you try doing it first. If you cannot do go back home and do if you still cannot do come look for me tomorrow. Yes back then teachers was I teach you listen if you don’t know look for me after school. It was still really fun tho.

  • Oh my goodness, this reminds me of the time the Government of Kenya introduced free Primarily education. There was a man who went back to school in his seventies and eventually graduated with his primary school certificate!!! He had always wanted to learn how to read and write and he eventually achieved that.

  • Lol I had so much fun passing the papers from the back to the front 😂 I moved to America and the classrooms are so weird the desks are in weird shapes and there’s like a carpet and a sofa. In Hong Kong we had cubbies at the back and just a desk for everyone in rows and stuff witch’s giant board at the front And I also the only one who loves their uniforms? Our school uniform sucks

  • I remember I had the most amazing teacher we went on trips outside of school a couple times every month (I wouldn’t really call them field trips we would go to the library and retirement home) and I was actually excited to go to school and then the next year I had a teacher I really didn’t like and really didnt like going because of her

  • I never understood why some parents pur their kids in so many tution programs? Like i dont get it your kid is already at the top of the class i donr get why they couldnt learn by themselves at home? Like is handholding necessary or do they learnt hings that thwy need in order to achieve the highest grade? Maybe this is just my school system/upbringing but im genuanly curious

  • They yall can complain ah… but good for them… now all the exam grading easier than before Go sec school .. u experience the worst life for 4/5 year… then say hard or not… during my primary school day… i got like all subject homework… after school lesson… and everyday.. i complain… see sec school lah

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